One of the greatest tools for listening to your inner voice is a sounding board that will reflect what your inner voice says back to you.
As an inner voice coach this is one of my roles. If you are interested in learning what it would be like to work with me as your inner voice coach and member of your sounding board, schedule a discovery call with me today.
Mary Shores is the author of Conscious Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, she has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to identify their goals, create new ways of thinking, and take action to create meaningful results. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.
Words, thoughts, feelings, actions: aspects of manifesting
Do you see the world through rose colored glasses, smudged glasses, or clearly?
Mary cautions us against trauma bonding. It’s disempowering, reinforces the negative
Stories of excitement make you like a magnet to other people
Mary shares her expertise on creating rocking affirmations!
Doing affirmations consistently builds a pathway in the subconscious
One outloud declaration to make someone happier by the end of the call informed her bestselling book and all parts of her life - words are powerful!
“Your words influence your internal drive and reveal your internal thoughts and emotions.”
“True knowledge is when you see life as it really is. That’s your most powerful decision-making state of being.”
“Trauma bonding is when we are telling traumatic stories to our past in order to create a resonance, bond, or connection with another person.”
“The way you talk about yourself, is a reflection of your identity.”
“Those [trauma] stories are best kept until you have a strong relationship with someone.”
“When you’re meeting someone or wanting to share parts of your life, all it takes is focusing on the triumphant.”
“The most beautiful part of your story is definitely in how you have learned to move forward.”
“I’m living a life that is more beautiful than it was before. I have the wisdom, awareness, and experience to consciously make choices I’m in control of. My moments in life are more delicious. Everything works more effortlessly. Not all the time. Life is a journey and many times it’s uncomfortable. Being authentic isn’t going around saying you have a perfect life!”
“The point of affirmations are to support your emotional state in the world. When you feel better, you’re going to do better!”
“Everyday in every way, I’m building the connections that are creating my future life right here and now.”
Mary’s In Her Voice Ep. 106, “The Science of Personal Development”
I know you are a thinker, a fixer, a problem solver, a planner BUT it’s time to lay that aside and give yourself permission to dream!!
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Michelle Mazur, Ph.D. founded Communication Rebel® on the belief that communication changes the world, so that’s what she helps business owners and speakers do: rebel against the status quo to make a difference, one compelling message at a time. She is the author of 3 books including the newly released 3 Word Rebellion: Create a One-of-a-Kind Message that Grows Your Business into a Movement and the host of the Rebel Rising podcast. She lives in Seattle, Washington, with her adoring husband, three obsessive felines, and a huge collection of Duran Duran memorabilia.
Having 3-Word Rebellion calls in the right people and gets them to act
Michelle’s strategy helps entrepreneurs succeed, applying principles of social movement theory to their businesses
Define yourself by what you really love and what holds meaning for you
You can learn to craft your message and hear yourself over all the noise
Free-writing gets raw ideas onto paper, where you can deal with the ideas and patterns
Hear more about her step by step process of how to see objectively
"It’s that one of a kind message that encapsulates the change you want to create for your audience. It helps you grow your business.”
"It makes people curious about what you’re doing in the world and compelled to act, to find out more.”
"Social movements are amazing at encapsulating the change they want to create in just a few words. Entrepreneurs do the same thing!”
“You have to figure out what you’re rebelling against and come up with a plan for something different.”
“It should really be about creating something bigger than yourself and making a difference!”
“I think what people are really craving now is significance, legacy, impact.”
“I believe your message comes from your own voice. Your 3-Word Rebellion exists in what you’ve been saying and creating, it’s just that you’re too close to it and your brain is too noisy to actually hear it.”
“There is no right or wrong, just the essence of what you’re actually thinking. So I recommend free-writing!”
“I look at the words as a data set, where I’m trying to figure out what patterns are there here?”
It's time to stop trying to live UP to your potential and instead live INTO it. Your potential is your power.
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Karen Aberle, author of #1 Amazon bestseller Love’s Invisible Dance, has spent the last 30 years researching and teaching about relationship. The dance became visible to Karen through her extensive studies in the philosophy of language, an 18-year apprenticeship with Huichol shamans of central Mexico, and her own 30-year marriage. Through her leadership program, Mindful Collaboration, Karen has coached individuals and teams in Fortune 100 organizations to achieve extraordinary results by better understanding how to learn, love, partner, and fight -- the same skills she and her husband have taught around the globe in their Deep Relationship programs for individuals and couples seeking more love in their lives. A native New Yorker, Karen now lives in Dallas, close to the embrace of her children and grandchildren.
Relationship discourse is traditionally invisible in our culture - not taught in schools
Energy of attractiveness can be created in our speaking
Why taking a beginner’s mind to relationships is key
The need to look as though “you know,” blocks opportunity for learning
How “not wanting to make mistakes” factors with courage in all kinds of relationships
Intimacy: allowing a slow unfolding of our authentic selves
Honoring the choices of the other; honoring oneself
“There are universal laws about relationship - one of them is that it happens in language; another is that we’re constantly being drawn towards and repelled from other people.”
“We need to learn how to make requests and assessments effectively. Assessments are always an opinion. We have to be able to listen and understand other’s intentions. We begin to look much more deeply under the surface of the words.”
“In my view you’re never more attractive than when you’re open, operating in a mood of wonder, you have generosity, you show up as grateful, and you are interested.”
“As human beings we are constantly growing, constantly in a space of learning.”
“Another law of relationship is that we are here to learn. There is a way to increase the speed and effectiveness of learning.”
“Intimacy is the willingness to be mutually, deeply known. Do you want to be loved for who you truly are, or do you want to be loved for who you pretend to be?”
“If we don’t give ourselves permission to be learners, it’s going to be impossible to be intimate with someone else.”
“We declare to each other, ‘Your concerns are my concerns.’ This is the foundation for partnership.”
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Isn't it time for us to deeply trust ourselves instead of some external plan? It takes practice, grace, and willingness.
Sarajane Case is a writer, speaker, podcaster and course creator based in Asheville, NC. She is the host of Brave Radio as well as The Enneagram and Coffee Podcast.
Enneagram is personality typing that changes with your circumstances
Only you can know your type! Quizzes are great but reading can help you uncover your motivation and thus your enneagram number
The Enneagram helps you become more aware of your behaviors and work with yourself better
How your number changes when you feel safe, open, able, and secure
What signs indicate needing self-care
Notice your indicators of being in a state of stress and being in a good place
Sarajane describes the light and dark sides of the enneagram numbers
Allow and embrace both the greatest parts of yourself and the ones you’d rather hide
External and internal qualities: experimenting with what you need to show up the best
Subtleties, knowledge and awareness that allow you to ask powerful questions
“The enneagram is essentially a personality typing tool, except it’s internally motivated and movable based on what drives you, what you’re afraid of, and levels of stress and health.”
“Enneagram is living and breathing. You can use it as a thing to work with.”
“In the nine basic Enneagram numbers, certain numbers play with other numbers in different seasons and different ways.”
“The moment of understanding your description and being like, ‘Oh, I resonate with this number!’ is where most tests end. The enneagram starts there. ‘Okay so I know my number. What does that mean for me? How does that impact my life? What behaviors that stem from that number that are serving me beautifully? What are the ones that aren’t serving me at all?’”
“When elements of a rest number show up, such as feeling spontaneous as a seven, it means your environment is supporting you.”
“When behaviors show up that only exhibit in your season of stress, how can you nurture, comfort and support yourself?”
“A lot of times we forget to ask ourselves the questions and we think that we’re out of touch with our intuition. But they’re there, just waiting for us to ask.”
Ali Boone left her corporate, 9-to-5 job as an Aeronautical Engineer to create lifestyle design and start her own business. Now she goes to school (for fun!), travels and flies airplanes. How does she do this? Ali has found a great way to generate truly passive income by investing in turnkey rentals. Through her company, Hipster Investments, Ali teaches others to do the same.
Ali discusses growing up “epically left-brained” - math, airplanes, good grades
Breaking out of not even “having feelings” - she was so in her head that it overrode any actual feeling that was happening
Becoming an entrepreneur was a mindset change
Lifestyle design is a constant journey
Openness to discovering something new about the self
Keys to feelings: not judging what comes up
Getting over her tendency to over-analyze by learning to be a neutral observer
She had the “coolest job” - top secret flight test engineer for top secret military planes
She is grateful for experiencing that, but always had her inner knowing it wasn’t for her
Passion vs. living in the way you want to live
Surrender and patience with the process - there’s a reason for the pace it’s happening!
We don’t have an owner’s manual but we do have our intuition
“I spent about five years trying to get out of my corporate job. I had no idea where that was going to take me. It was a journey in itself. It was a journey of trying as hard as I could and being open to what was presented to me.”
“It was a soulful journey of finding out who I am (I was under some false impressions). In some ways I’m not different at all today but in other ways I’m completely different”
“It’s about the lifestyle design, who I am, what I’m here for, and really just enjoying life, minute by minute.”
“We have resistance: there could be some reason that we’re terrified to suddenly not be the thing we’re supposed to be.”
“I was like, I should explore this emotion-feeling thing. It was such a mystery. And it was frustrating for quite a while because I was even asking people to explain them to me. I was hoping for a bulletized spreadsheet list! People would just stare at me. For the longest time, I was just clueless.”
“At that point because of how gracefully it had laid itself out, it was so clear to me, there were no questions at all that I had to be doing this. It was as if someone signed me up for this and I had no choice. It was partially knowing, and partially building it in a way that made it concrete for me.”
“I don’t think you could survive as an entrepreneur if you don’t have passion somewhere in the equation. The only thing that got me through the roller coaster was for the freedom of lifestyle. I want this so bad that I’m willing to rough out the hard times.”
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Heather Dominick is a woman who is impressively successful, and highly spiritual. Heather is the winner of the 2015 Best of Manhattan Coaching Award and creator of the 2014 Stevie Award winning virtual event A Course In Business Miracles®: 21-Day Discovery Series. She has appeared on Lifetime Television and has been published in numerous books. An exceptional facilitator and teacher, Heather is known for creating a safe, sacred community for true transformation. She has helped thousands of HSE®s release lifelong limiting beliefs, overcome fears and learn how to build their business in a way that actually feels so good that they can’t help but create solid, sustainable, high level financial success. Heather is also the founder and leader of the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur® movement.
It can be such a gift to be a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE)
HSE’s can learn to approach overwhelm to be grounded, at peace, and successful
Whether you run into or away from the fire, or a little of both, a clear understanding of HSE traits helps you move into creativity under pressure
Trust and allowing your process to look differently are key
Heather went through dark doubt on being in her industry before she self-assessed as highly sensitive and began to apply what she learned to her work. Now she still has a seven-figure business but her experience is much more positive.
“A Highly Sensitive Person’s nervous system is wired differently, interpreting information and sense stimulation at a much high degree.”
“Being self-employed, the potential for overwhelm is staggering.”
“Highly Sensitives are extremely creative by nature.”
“When you tap into your creative strength, everything about being self-employed that perhaps felt so imprisoning can become an enlightening and fun experience.”
“The willingness for a shift absolutely requires a deep aspect of trust. The irony is that most of us who are Highly Sensitive have learned the exact opposite.”
“When I first heard the phrase and understood more from Dr. Elaine Aron’s work, it surprised me not that I was an HSP, only that I was off-the-charts highly sensitive.”
“I had a group of 25 female entrepreneurs I was working with take Dr. Aron’s assessment and not surprisingly every person was highly sensitive. What surprised me is that not one of them wanted to be highly sensitive. They saw it as a detriment. That room full of talented coaches, healers, and creative entrepreneurs is what really began what is now the HSE movement.”
If you are interested in learning even more about Heather’s Work, I encourage you to sign up for her LIVE Teleclass on Wednesday January 9th, 2019 at 12pm, EASTERN, where she will be sharing some important insights she sees are needed for us in 2019 now more than ever and the changes she’ll personally be making to her business as a result. Click here to register.
Don't end this year by beating yourself up over what you didn't accomplish. Instead use these three intentions to help give you perspective, joy and a great start on your goals for 2019!
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Monique Lang, LCSW, has trained extensively in many models of psychotherapy and mindfulness, providing her with a wealth of experience to help heal the whole person—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She has expertise in trauma treatment and teaches at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Monique is coauthor of Journey to Wholeness, and author of Healing from Post-Traumatic Stress, Meditations for Healing, and Ceremonies for Healing.
Learning to connect with your core self and inner knowing
Traumatic events happen to all of us
As a therapist she helps release the burdens, both physiological and psychological
Monique emphasizes that there are many paths to healing
Paying attention psychologically, asking questions, listening to when you learned
Being present with what is, with gentleness and lovingness
Reiki as asking to allow the energy to come through
Humor and compassion for self for not meditating perfectly!
“If you are in freeze and there is no way to release the physiological as well as the narrative of what happened, it gets stuck in the body.”
“I think it helps to have someone mirror, reflect, and ask the questions you wouldn’t ask yourself.”
“The core Self is the essence of who we are, that which connects us to spirit and energy. In meditation when you’re fully yourself and fully not yourself is Self. You’re just there in that liminal space. It is beautiful but not overly helpful in managing your life. Thus ‘parts’ [of Self] develop to help us live our life.”
“When you bring understanding and compassion to whatever is coming, you’re present. And when you’re present, you’re in self.”
“Where and how did I learn to not pay attention? Where and how did I learn to drive myself to exhaustion? No Blame. Curiosity.”
“Try stopping for three minutes. There are a zillion ways to meditate. It’s finding those ways inside yourself. There is no one way.”
“You don’t have to do it right and you can’t do it wrong.”
The hard work begins when the work gets hard. An interesting perspective on what hard work means and how to listen to your inner voice to know when to push through and when to take a break.
You can either play it safe or you can take risks. Which will it be for you?
Kala Philo is a marketing video strategist for women who are the face of their brand and business. A marketing video producer for over 15 years, Kala founded The Ultimate System for Fab Videos, Finally Done, to teach clients a powerful, simple system to create and leverage smartphone videos and transform their marketing and engagement. She believes that the rise of online video is nothing short of a revolution, and she is passionate about simplifying video to empower thousands of women to develop confidence and mirror their unique brilliance on Video. A few years ago, Kala fulfilled a lifelong dream of downsizing to free up time and resources to travel solo while building her online business. Today Kala uses Mexico City as her homebase and co-produces the slow travel lifestyle blog La Vida with Wings with her guapo Mexican partner, Sergio Zavala.
Kala tells how she stripped away everything she had and began her location-independent business
She and Kelly discuss the privilege of having access to video as a resource for women who are the face of their business
There are a billion women who don’t necessarily have the opportunity to put up video and leverage that
Being your authentic self on video creates reaffirming feedback and helps you to be known and trusted in the online sphere
Tips for getting clarity on what your fears are to using video
Why brains are wired to be mesmerized by video
Business benefits of using video, including your website’s Google rankings
“I’m more of who I am than I’ve ever been, at 55 years old.”
“Every person is called to make a journey.”
“If you don’t like what you’re hearing and seeing in the world but you’re not stepping out with your own authentic voice, maybe you should share.”
“There are people out there who need what you’re offering.”
If you have ever worried about not being original, this is the episode for you! I'm riffing on originality vs. authenticity and why it really does matter for you to share what your inner voice is asking you to share!
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Bernadette Doyle is a transformational expert and the founder of the Online Profits University, an online school that teaches entrepreneurs how to create new income streams. Her entrepreneurial journey began at the age of 26 where she was successfully trading her time for money and found herself overwhelmed and constantly hustling despite how successful she was. After the birth of her first son, Bernadette found that her own success had become an anchor. As the demands on her time grew, suddenly she needed a team and to house and manage that team. Her previous business model was simply unsustainable. Soon after, Bernadette fully switched to an online model and soon found herself freed of her constraints. By packaging her expertise into products and online programs and connecting with customers by teleconference and webinar, she doubled her income in her first year as a new mother, all with time to spend with her family. By 2008, Bernadette had generated a million dollars in online sales and even masterminded personally with Richard Branson, all with the free time to be a single mother to her two children.
As Bernadette started in business she began learning resilience as a business lesson
Bernadette tells her story of being a very successful businesswoman who had a subtle and sudden change seven years ago that she wasn’t conscious of at the time
Aligning closer with the business that is right with you will make you more successful
She defines success as using every opportunity to learn to lead a more balanced life
She asks, will challenges and opportunities throw you into chaos or teach you to balance?
There is something very powerful about the energy of Willingness - Power Vs. Force
Overwhelm is an indicator to course correct, even just as simple and short as a deep breath or two minutes of time out
If an activity can’t be eliminated, you need to delegate it or hand it off to someone else
An activity inventory helps you track which activities are revenue-producing and not revenue-producing but take up a lot of your time.
If you constantly wait for money to show up to make decisions, you won’t move forward at all. Leaps of faith are required.
You need to make the decision from the destination not the starting point
Be willing to work with the feedback from the market when it doesn’t work out as expected. Ask what needs to be adjusted and be willing to course-correct.
Women need time and space to be women, to work with her flows and know her own energy, especially those who don’t have a regular office job
“Moment of conflict - I feel like I should be doing one thing but I need to be doing another. I trust that there’s a plan. Things will work out in a way you couldn’t imagine.”
“Start where you are and start small to develop that trust that you’re aligning with the right business, like it’s a skill. Why not start by thinking small? Today is all I got, this hour is all I got.”
“Willingness to be shown [a way], especially when you can’t see the details, opens up tremendous possibilities.”
“If I’m feeling exhilarated or content and looking forward to relaxation time with family, I know I’m on track. If I’m feeling stress or ratty, it’s feedback and I need to look more closely. I track the time I spend doing things I have natural ability for, versus things I definitely don’t feel energized by.”
“Keep track of what you’re spending your time on. Did they energize you or did they drain you?”
“The things we’re excited about sharing as business owners have corresponding need in the world. There’s a group of people who are looking for that.”
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Dallas Woodburn is an acclaimed writing coach and “book doula” who founded the 90-Day Book Breakthrough Program to help entrepreneurs give birth to the books that are burning inside them. She is the author of three books, both traditionally published and indie-published, and is the editor of two national anthologies. She also has experience as a freelance writer for dozens of magazines, newspapers, websites, and 30+ books in the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul book series. Dallas received her BA degree in Creative Writing and Entrepreneurship from the University of Southern California and her Master’s degree in Fiction Writing from Purdue University, and was a Steinbeck Fellow at San Jose State University. She has led groups and seminars at a number of national conferences, festivals, and book fairs, and is a frequent guest speaker at club meetings, on podcasts, and on TV shows. Her new novel The Best Week That Never Happened will be published by Month9Books in 2020.
If you’re starting to write a book, it’s a weighty question of where to begin
Don’t try to think of the project as a whole or get ahead of yourself, just think about one story or message you want to share and write a page
Dallas’s dad being a writer made her very aware of the link between writing and book being made
While communicating in words was at first exciting, it’s now buried deep inside of us
The idea of remembering the magic of expressing anything through words and changing lives of people we’ve never met is an idea that can center you when you begin a new project or sit down to write
You can tap into that child-like place with practices like a photo reminder, going with the flow, letting go of expectations, making your favorite tea, lighting a candle, creating different playlists for each project you’re working on, etc
Rituals like these can help train your brain to get into special writing time, especially if you turn off your phone, shut down your email if writing on the computer and clear away any other distractions
Treat writing as a special time that you have with yourself; it’s nourishing!
As you’re writing, think about your ideal reader or even a particular person to write to and create a manifesto for yourself
How will what you’re writing help the audience you’re writing for?
Use the connection that your words will have with your reader as motivation to keep writing. Remember to ask yourself, “what do I really want to say to my ideal reader?”
Not feeling motivated is a normal part of the process, especially when your initial enthusiasm has worn off a little but you are far from the end goal
The “muddy middle” as Dallas calls it, is a common place for people to quit writing
By adding the phrase, “and that’s okay” to any inner voice, it takes the power away from the criticism
When asked what is the hardest thing about being a writer, Dallas replied that her response has shifted from external struggles such as getting published to the internal battles with self doubt, fear, and critical voices
These practices are relevant and useful even if you’re not writing a book - it’s a reminder to surround yourself people who listen and support you
As a coach she is a cheerleader and book doula - a container of support
Her inner voice is calling her to trust and listen to what her inner voice has to say
“Someone else who you’ve never met and will never meet can read the words that you write and it can change their perspective or their life.”
“Every time I start a new project I feel afraid that maybe I won’t be able to find or its scary to me because it’s something new. Every book has felt different to me because it’s a different journey, it’s pushed me to grow”
“Writing your book is going to change you. You can’t hire that out. Self exploration and know yourself in the way if you write your book out.”
“It’s amazing how much wisdom we have inside ourselves that we don’t even know.”
Kelly Resendez is a mom, business executive, best selling author and influencer. She loves helping others with strategies to overcome self-sabotage and find more joy. Author of the new and already popular book Big Voices, is also founder of the movement the book is named for, Big Voices a women-empowered network.
True suffering is experienced by those victimized by the many evils in the world
Self suffering is when daily challenges, both physical and mental, are created by one’s thoughts and emotions
Worry, fear, and loss of hope consume the self-suffering person, who is at a loss for how to process and feels a lack of control
At any moment, a new story can transform anyone’s life because thoughts are so powerful!
Under the surface each person carries a deeper potential
By tapping into joy and maintaining it consciously, despite the simultaneous experience of suffering, one can realize a transformative paradigm shift
Kelly Resendez shares her story of losses, challenges, and conflicts within her family that spurred her to seek external gratification but also deep searching
Thought Management Strategy: sorting and qualifying authentic empowering thought from disempowering thought
Thank and let go of the “little” thoughts that come at you like doubt and self pity
Create actionable steps out of the thoughts that come from your big voice
Bring patterned and repetitive thoughts into the light by documenting and also help others find light by challenging their little thoughts
Kelly is very particular about who she keeps closest to her while also believing in being less judgmental and more accepting
She relies on the strength of her belief system to keep her positive in strong situations
Have the conviction that nobody will steal your joy! Especially in the conversation surrounding both parents and parenting!
Kelly and Kelly dive deep into an exchange on parenting
Why you should create space on a daily basis to make yourself a priority and make self love a practice
“We can change the way that we experience the life that we’re given. We can’t remove the suffering but we can certainly shift how we’re experiencing it and maintain joy simultaneously.”
“I was able to move through and find meaning in the struggles. I stay in a place where nobody steals my joy. I’m just unshakeable.”
“The first step is trusting that the universe is going to orchestrate to help move you forward.”
“Your little voice is just all those little nonsense thoughts: ‘I hate my body,’ ‘I’m never gonna get out of this,’ ‘I’m just not pretty enough,’ ‘I’m not smart enough,’ ‘I’m never gonna get ahead in my life or have financial freedom.’ When you’re able to sort and qualify your big voice from your little voice, you’re able to see that the little voice is just nonsense.”
“We desire connection. We also have the habit of staying isolated with our self suffering. We end up complaining instead of creating a new pattern. We’ve got to help one another!”
“When you really think about devotion, it is an absolute commitment to your emotional and physical well-being so that you can be in a place of impact and service to the rest of world.”
