On Values and Happiness with Andrea Owen

Life coach. Author. Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choose courage and confidence instead.

Catch Andrea’s first interview on In Her Voice here.

Here are some of the big topics we talked about…

  • You might struggle with happiness, but you can improve, have compassion for yourself!

  • Key points of our journey “value work” - some of the top values: love, freedom, courage, adventure, giving back, authenticity, stability, safety, integrity, honesty

  • Spiritual transitions and one’s changing relationship with one’s religion and devotion

  • Creativity can look like so many different things. Define what a value means to you!

  • Authenticity examples: being yourself AND knowing when you’re in perfectionism, people pleasing; taking responsibility for your mistakes and making apologizes; cleaning up messes/ apologizing; having hard conversations and setting boundaries

  • Don’t set values and run away — know what they look like on a daily basis

  • Be proud of how you showed up no matter the outcome

  • Identify red flags of when you’re out of alignment

  • Become aware of incongruity so you can make a choice about who you want to be

In Andrea’s Voice

“Happiness is where you are proactive in your life in focusing on the things that make you feel good. There are things that we can do that will help us along the path of happiness.”
“What’s important about the way you live your life? What attributes and virtues matter to you?”
Your values might change depending on the season that you’re in. I invite people to try not to be attached to what a value ‘means.’”
“Print a list of values from the web. Circle any that jump out at you. My guess is that first round you’re going to circle the ones that look good on paper, that you want to be your values. Don’t be afraid to circle ones you might not yet honor in your life. I call those aspire values.”
“Ask yourself what values you need to honor to get you to the next level in your personal life.”
“Professing and naming your values is like naming your children and calling that parenting. It’s not how it works! It’s the same with values. You can tell people what your values are. The next step, what does that look for you on a ground level, day in and day out?”
“I’d have cheated myself, not honored courage, if I didn’t have an uncomfortable conversation.”
“There’s a feeling of congruency, you feel at home and comfortable of who you are. The more aligned you are with your values, the more brave you are in your life, the more you can trust yourself on the other side.”
“When I have moments of being out of alignment with who I want to be, I notice it within a handful of minutes. The solution for me: self compassion, then making a decision about what needs to be done. I have been practicing this for about 12 years!”

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Mary Shores on The Power of Words

Mary Shores is the author of Conscious Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, she has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to identify their goals, create new ways of thinking, and take action to create meaningful results. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.

Here are some of the big topics we talked about...

  • Words, thoughts, feelings, actions: aspects of manifesting

  • Do you see the world through rose colored glasses, smudged glasses, or clearly?

  • Mary cautions us against trauma bonding. It’s disempowering, reinforces the negative

  • Stories of excitement make you like a magnet to other people

  • Mary shares her expertise on creating rocking affirmations!

  • Doing affirmations consistently builds a pathway in the subconscious

  • One outloud declaration to make someone happier by the end of the call informed her bestselling book and all parts of her life - words are powerful!

In Mary’s Voice

Your words influence your internal drive and reveal your internal thoughts and emotions.”

True knowledge is when you see life as it really is. That’s your most powerful decision-making state of being.”

Trauma bonding is when we are telling traumatic stories to our past in order to create a resonance, bond, or connection with another person.”

“The way you talk about yourself, is a reflection of your identity.”

“Those [trauma] stories are best kept until you have a strong relationship with someone.”

“When you’re meeting someone or wanting to share parts of your life, all it takes is focusing on the triumphant.

“The most beautiful part of your story is definitely in how you have learned to move forward.”

I’m living a life that is more beautiful than it was before. I have the wisdom, awareness, and experience to consciously make choices I’m in control of. My moments in life are more delicious. Everything works more effortlessly. Not all the time. Life is a journey and many times it’s uncomfortable. Being authentic isn’t going around saying you have a perfect life!”

“The point of affirmations are to support your emotional state in the world. When you feel better, you’re going to do better!”

“Everyday in every way, I’m building the connections that are creating my future life right here and now.

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Mary’s In Her Voice Ep. 106, “The Science of Personal Development

Creating Impact with Ali Boone

Ali Boone left her corporate, 9-to-5 job as an Aeronautical Engineer to create lifestyle design and start her own business. Now she goes to school (for fun!), travels and flies airplanes. How does she do this? Ali has found a great way to generate truly passive income by investing in turnkey rentals. Through her company, Hipster Investments, Ali teaches others to do the same.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about

  • Ali discusses growing up “epically left-brained” - math, airplanes, good grades

  • Breaking out of not even “having feelings” - she was so in her head that it overrode any actual feeling that was happening

  • Becoming an entrepreneur was a mindset change

  • Lifestyle design is a constant journey

  • Openness to discovering something new about the self

  • Keys to feelings: not judging what comes up

  • Getting over her tendency to over-analyze by learning to be a neutral observer

  • She had the “coolest job” - top secret flight test engineer for top secret military planes

  • She is grateful for experiencing that, but always had her inner knowing it wasn’t for her

  • Passion vs. living in the way you want to live

  • Surrender and patience with the process - there’s a reason for the pace it’s happening!

  • We don’t have an owner’s manual but we do have our intuition

In Ali’s Voice

“I spent about five years trying to get out of my corporate job. I had no idea where that was going to take me. It was a journey in itself. It was a journey of trying as hard as I could and being open to what was presented to me.”

“It was a soulful journey of finding out who I am (I was under some false impressions). In some ways I’m not different at all today but in other ways I’m completely different”

“It’s about the lifestyle design, who I am, what I’m here for, and really just enjoying life, minute by minute.”

“We have resistance: there could be some reason that we’re terrified to suddenly not be the thing we’re supposed to be.”

“I was like, I should explore this emotion-feeling thing. It was such a mystery. And it was frustrating for quite a while because I was even asking people to explain them to me. I was hoping for a bulletized spreadsheet list! People would just stare at me. For the longest time, I was just clueless.”

“At that point because of how gracefully it had laid itself out, it was so clear to me, there were no questions at all that I had to be doing this. It was as if someone signed me up for this and I had no choice. It was partially knowing, and partially building it in a way that made it concrete for me.”

“I don’t think you could survive as an entrepreneur if you don’t have passion somewhere in the equation. The only thing that got me through the roller coaster was for the freedom of lifestyle. I want this so bad that I’m willing to rough out the hard times.”

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Monique Lang on Connecting with Your Core Self

Monique Lang, LCSW, has trained extensively in many models of psychotherapy and mindfulness, providing her with a wealth of experience to help heal the whole person—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She has expertise in trauma treatment and teaches at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Monique is coauthor of Journey to Wholeness, and author of Healing from Post-Traumatic Stress, Meditations for Healing, and Ceremonies for Healing.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about

  • Learning to connect with your core self and inner knowing

  • Traumatic events happen to all of us

  • As a therapist she helps release the burdens, both physiological and psychological

  • Monique emphasizes that there are many paths to healing

  • Paying attention psychologically, asking questions, listening to when you learned

  • Being present with what is, with gentleness and lovingness

  • Reiki as asking to allow the energy to come through

  • Humor and compassion for self for not meditating perfectly!

In Monique’s Voice

“If you are in freeze and there is no way to release the physiological as well as the narrative of what happened, it gets stuck in the body.”

“I think it helps to have someone mirror, reflect, and ask the questions you wouldn’t ask yourself.”

“The core Self is the essence of who we are, that which connects us to spirit and energy. In meditation when you’re fully yourself and fully not yourself is Self. You’re just there in that liminal space. It is beautiful but not overly helpful in managing your life. Thus ‘parts’ [of Self] develop to help us live our life.”

“When you bring understanding and compassion to whatever is coming, you’re present. And when you’re present, you’re in self.”

“Where and how did I learn to not pay attention? Where and how did I learn to drive myself to exhaustion? No Blame. Curiosity.”

“Try stopping for three minutes. There are a zillion ways to meditate. It’s finding those ways inside yourself. There is no one way.”
“You don’t have to do it right and you can’t do it wrong.”

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Big Voice with Kelly Resendez

Kelly Resendez is a mom, business executive, best selling author and influencer. She loves helping others with strategies to overcome self-sabotage and find more joy. Author of the new and already popular book Big Voices, is also founder of the movement the book is named for, Big Voices a women-empowered network.

Here are some of the big topics we talked about:

  • True suffering is experienced by those victimized by the many evils in the world

  • Self suffering is when daily challenges, both physical and mental, are created by one’s thoughts and emotions

  • Worry, fear, and loss of hope consume the self-suffering person, who is at a loss for how to process and feels a lack of control

  • At any moment, a new story can transform anyone’s life because thoughts are so powerful!

  • Under the surface each person carries a deeper potential

  • By tapping into joy and maintaining it consciously, despite the simultaneous experience of suffering, one can realize a transformative paradigm shift

  • Kelly Resendez shares her story of losses, challenges, and conflicts within her family that spurred her to seek external gratification but also deep searching

  • Thought Management Strategy: sorting and qualifying authentic empowering thought from disempowering thought

  • Thank and let go of the “little” thoughts that come at you like doubt and self pity

  • Create actionable steps out of the thoughts that come from your big voice

  • Bring patterned and repetitive thoughts into the light by documenting and also help others find light by challenging their little thoughts

  • Kelly is very particular about who she keeps closest to her while also believing in being less judgmental and more accepting

  • She relies on the strength of her belief system to keep her positive in strong situations

  • Have the conviction that nobody will steal your joy! Especially in the conversation surrounding both parents and parenting!

  • Kelly and Kelly dive deep into an exchange on parenting

  • Why you should create space on a daily basis to make yourself a priority and make self love a practice

In Kelly’s Voice

“We can change the way that we experience the life that we’re given. We can’t remove the suffering but we can certainly shift how we’re experiencing it and maintain joy simultaneously.”

“I was able to move through and find meaning in the struggles. I stay in a place where nobody steals my joy. I’m just unshakeable.”

“The first step is trusting that the universe is going to orchestrate to help move you forward.”

“Your little voice is just all those little nonsense thoughts: ‘I hate my body,’ ‘I’m never gonna get out of this,’ ‘I’m just not pretty enough,’ ‘I’m not smart enough,’ ‘I’m never gonna get ahead in my life or have financial freedom.’ When you’re able to sort and qualify your big voice from your little voice, you’re able to see that the little voice is just nonsense.”

“We desire connection. We also have the habit of staying isolated with our self suffering. We end up complaining instead of creating a new pattern. We’ve got to help one another!”

“When you really think about devotion, it is an absolute commitment to your emotional and physical well-being so that you can be in a place of impact and service to the rest of world.”

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How Emotions Can Heal with Amy Scher

Amy B. Scher is the best selling author of How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can and This Is How I Save My Life. Her forthcoming book, How To Heal Yourself From Anxiety will be out in 2019. As an expert in mind-body-spirit healing, she is often lovingly referred to as an “accidental guru.” She uses energy therapy techniques to help those experiencing emotional and physical challenges to move on and heal permanently and completely. Amy lives in She lives in NYC with her beautiful wife and two bad cats. She teaches at retreats and conferences nationwide. Most importantly, she lives by her self-created motto: When life kicks your ass, kick-back.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Amy shares her story of chronic Lyme disease undiagnosed for many years

  • Her symptoms were so severe she went for experimental stem cell transplant in India

  • She followed her intuition (against her doctor’s wishes) to try this treatment for 9 weeks

  • Rebuilt immune, nervous systems and organs; she recovered with huge improvement

  • Amy’s physical recovery unravelled after a year at which point she was forced to look inward and come to many realizations about her inner life

  • She began to admit to herself that her positive and upbeat ways were forced

  • The full healing came in from releasing all of her emotional baggage

  • This emotional and spiritual piece was much harder than the physical recovery

  • Rarely do we look at the whole picture of our emotional selves; the medical diagnosis process reduces down to individual small factors

  • We have so many ways to participate in healing our illness, depression, and anxiety

  • Emotion Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping techniques along the body’s acupuncture meridians is an active release of emotions that were stuck or held

  • She found EFT works for her because it’s easy and felt good to her. In turn, part of Amy’s teaching is to help others do what is easy for them

  • Acknowledging emotions and letting go of them in one fell swoop is a way to clear

  • Amy’s book How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can has a chapter on EFT

  • Listening to her inner voice, intuition and trusting it has been a throughline in Amy’s life

  • The surprising the way she knew she needed to go to India to heal her Lyme ultimately lead to meeting the love of her life there

  • She has had a lot of confirmation that her body knows what she needs

In Amy’s Voice:

“I had to look at what other factors could be affecting my physical body. That’s what made me turn inward to look at the inner landscape of my life.”

“It wasn’t until I got home that I was able to integrate all of the seeds from India such as ‘you can heal yourself’ and ‘mind over matter.’”

“If I want to get better, what I’ve been doing isn’t working. Even if it’s not my fault, it has to be my responsibility to take part in the solution.”

“Our body, immune system, and nervous systems can handle a lot but it can’t hold your whole past under the surface and deal illness.”

“We have to meet our medicine halfway to do our part to bring up our immune system because our emotions can make us sick.”

“We so often look last at our emotional selves, how much we’re having fun, and connections with family and friends. Those things all contribute to our inner environment.”

“If I deal with acknowledging and clearing an emotion just temporarily right now, then I’m done and I can move on.”

“Once we realize that emotions are only really difficult when we have to hold them for a long time, we become used to feeling angry or sad, being fine with it, and letting it pass. You realize if you allow it, it will just move.”

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