Defining Beauty and Confidence on Your Terms with Mary Hyatt

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Mary Hyatt is on a quest to feel alive and to live a life full of gratitude, joy, authenticity, and abundance in body, mind and soul. Mary believes that every person has the ability to embrace a life and body they love. Mary is the creator of Babe, Redefined a 6 week online course to help women make peace with the mirror, quiet their inner bully and love their body.

Mary lives in the heart of Nashville and her days are spent juggling the rolls of holistic lifestyle advocate as a Presidential Diamond wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils, and personal life and business coach. She helps her clients wake up, find their voice and become fully alive.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Mary and asks her to describe how she came to know she was worthy, as she is right now.

  • Mary shares the story of where she was 6 or 7 years ago, and how she got to where she is now.

  • Mary helps women find the 2.0 version of themselves.

  • Many of us shut our emotions off when we don’t like ourselves, Mary shares how she began to feel again.

  • Tara Brach

  • One of the reasons we avoid our feelings so much is because we believe they are going to overtake us.

  • Book: Intuitive Eating - And, how it changed how Mary fed her body.

  • Getting curious about her feelings, is how Mary began to change her mind and body.

  • Acknowledge how you feel and then use it as data.

  • Feelings as vibrations of the body, they’re not who you are.

  • Dave Asprey and Peter Sage

  • Mary hated her body so much that in order to start loving herself, she had to show gratitude for her body. This all started in a yoga class, Mary shares the full story in this episode!

  • Babe, Redefined is the name of Mary’s course - she shares why she chose the word “babe” which can be a triggering word.

  • The state of freedom women experience when they release the fear they’ve been living with.

  • What “babe” means to Mary.

  • Mary shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Mary’s Voice:

“I think most women start playing this role that we have been handed by society, our family, our spouses, our friends. And it’s this role of playing the good girl where we are quiet, respectful. We believe we need to be small, be little because we don’t have the sense of self-worth.”

“I gave myself permission to feel my emotions - it felt very risky. It felt like this may turn out to where I can’t bring myself to go back. And what I needed to do is little by little give myself permission to identify those feelings.”

“I think sometimes we are afraid to feel our emotions because we believe that if we feel certain emotions, that becomes who we are.”

“When you touch the parts of your body that you’ve totally abused and berated and you ask for forgiveness, all of a sudden you can come to peace with something that you thought was your enemy and enter into a state of acceptance and love.”

“You will have a smile on your face. You will feel like you are glowing. And you will feel a sense of confidence, bravery, courage, resiliency, and just that true, fierce femininity, when you begin feeling your emotions.”

Connect with Mary:

Mary’s Website

Babe, Redefined

Instagram

Facebook

Jana Roemer on Awakening with Yoga Nidra

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With roots in Canada, after 20 years of travel and study with respected teachers and a decade in the role of teacher, Jana Roemer’s home is in Venice, CA where she leads classes and new moon circles at Love Yoga Space. Jana has run over a dozen 200 hour yoga teacher trainings, a 300 hour YTT, multiple Yoga Nidra trainings and retreats all over the globe. You can find her on Insight Timer, Elephant Journal, the Revealing the Diamond podcast and have been written up about on Well + Good about Yoga Nidra, New Moon Circles and breath to relieve stress. My website has all current trainings, retreats, public classes and monthly online Astro Nidras!

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Jana Roemer.
  • Jana explains what a midwife of awakening is.
  • We experience many rebirths throughout our lives.
  • We resist change and transformation because we think it is a bad thing. Jana teaches us otherwise.
  • Yoga Nidra is the practice of surrender.
  • The altered state of Yoga Nidra.
  • Jana describes what occurs when your body is in alpha or theta.
  • By changing our subconscious patterns we can change our reactions to real-life things.
  • When doing Yoga Nidra it doesn’t actually matter if you fall asleep, because you’re working with the subconscious.
  • Yoga Nidra changes over time like meditation does.
  • Why lying down in Yoga Nidra allows you to surrender and gain access to all the of the information of your subconscious.
  • The fast track to awakening.
  • The Five bodies
  • Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
  • Insight Timer App
  • Jana’s Offerings
  • Jana's free gift of her Aries Season 2018 Yoga Nidra
  • Jana shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Jana’s Voice:

“I gave birth to my son. In the process of doing that I gave birth to myself all over again.”

“Any right of passage is a rebirth.”

“I think we have to look at our own transformation with a willingness to feel whatever is coming up in the moment that it's coming up.”

“Emotions are just cleansing mechanisms so that you can come through to something more blissful.”

“By creating these patterns through this surrendered state then in your waking life all of a sudden your endocrine system is taking over and before you have a chance to think about it and be resentful and let your ego get in the way and create a story, you're already getting fed a cocktail of chemicals that says, "Just forgive them.”

“When you're surrendering or when you lay down for yoga nidra, you're actually learning how to gain access to all of that additional information or to go in and mine information from the storage house that you're collecting in.”

“When you spend time laying down in the practice of yoga nidra you're not doing nothing actually. You're waking up to an infinite knowing.”

“That's where you meet yourself in the practice because everything else is just a layer of illusion or distraction away from that pure consciousness. That's bliss.”

Connect with Jana:

Jana’s Website

Instagram

YouTube

Facebook

Twitter

 

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The Science of Personal Development with Mary Shores

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Mary Shore’s roller coaster life began with being abandoned at a young age and tragically losing her first child. But Mary was able to overcome life’s hurdles and turn tragedy to triumph by building an 8 figure business empire at age 24.

Mary is an expert in personal development but is not a life coach; she’s a businesswoman who discovered a road map of how to get in control of your life. She truly walks her talk by generating pragmatic solutions for people who are freaking out. Mary blends personal experience with her extensive knowledge of neuroscience and human behavior to guide businesses and individuals to defeat the freak-out and create their ideal life.

She’s a Shark Tank style CEO who cuts through the chaos so you can change your mind, your choices, and your life.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Mary Shores.

  • Mary shares where her connection with personal development began.

  • How our we can self-sabotage ourselves.

  • Infinite Possibilities

  • How to connect our subconscious with the desirable outcome.

  • Positive thoughts plant positive seeds, and negative thoughts plant the negative seeds.

  • Unraveling your entire life is unnecessary in order to move forward.

  • Kelly and Mary discuss how having son’s on the spectrum have taught them so much as women and moms.

  • Belief systems and how you can overcome them.

  • Mary reads an excerpt from her book, Conscious Communications.

  • How to uncover your path of purpose.

  • Cleanse or Clogs

  • Mary does not believe in perfectionism, she believes in an 80/20 life.

  • Mary is an extremely powerful manifester.

  • Kelly and Mary discuss how the science part comes into personal development and manifesting.

  • Mary shares how she was able to overcome all of the trauma in her life.

  • If you choose a different “door” your life can head in a million different directions.

  • Mary shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Mary’s Voice:

“Science and spirituality are really one and the same but they are using two different languages to explain the happenings.”

“I always say that if you take a step to a new direction, then the universe, God, or whatever you believe will come in and meet you halfway.”

“You don’t have to unravel every moment of your life in order to move forward. But what you can do as the workaround, is to start the new neural pathway.”

“What I’ve discovered is that your purpose is whatever your natural skills and gifts, talents and abilities are. It’s really the rest of the world that’s tried to convince you they’re something different.”

“Everything you say, every thing you do, every word that comes out of your mouth, every choice you make, every action you take; in the thinnest sliced moment of life is either creating that deeper connection to what you want or it’s driving a disconnection.”

“True transformation happens in small pivots over time.”

“Every time that we make that choice that takes us closer to where we want to be, that’s reinforcing that neural pathway.”

Connect with Mary:

Mary’s Website

Mary’s Book

Instagram

Facebook

Twitter

Visionary Spotlight: Heather Thorkelson

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Heather Thorkelson is a coach who works with entrepreneurs to grow their impact and visibility while growing their bottom line. She has been location independent for 7 years and runs her businesses from all over the world, including, on occasion, Antarctica. Heather is the founder of the Republic of Freedom, a digital collective aimed at helping people live better outside the Matrix, and the owner of Twin Tracks Expeditions, a polar expedition company.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Heather and asks her to share what visionary means to her.

  • Heather shares what her favorite part of herself is.

  • The ladies discuss how Heather has connected with her instincts, which was significantly impacted by Heather’s upbringing.

  • At the age of 17, Heather had experienced what some people at that age cannot even fathom.

  • The psychological requirements that put you in a good headspace.

  • Heather shares her non-negotiable forms of self-care are.

  • Asking for help is difficult for a lot of women, but especially so for Heather. Heather shares why.

  • Heather’s first step in asking for help, began when she stopped being so dismissive of her husband trying to help her.

  • Essentialism by Greg McCallen

  • The busy work that is outside your zone of genius as an entrepreneur is an excellent form of procrastination.

  • Freedom and its importance in Heather’s life.

  • Heather shares how she keeps herself from falling prey to societal standards.

  • How to start breaking free of the matrix, as Heather likes to call it.

  • Heather shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Heather’s Voice:

“I think a visionary is someone who both leads by example and also someone who is willing to look for the possibility in everything rather than just staying within the box, or as I like to call it “stay within the matrix.”

 

“I do things that people tell me can’t be done, and I don’t care. I trust my instincts. They haven’t led me astray yet, not wildly anyways.”

“What are the basic psychological requirements that put you in a good head space so that you can serve others from there.”

“My whole 30s have been an unfolding and learning how to listen to myself.”

“I had dumbed down so many of my senses that I realized when I started to relax on myself that colors started to seem more vibrant and what not.”

“Freedom to me, in the context of who I am in the society that I live in, is the ability to make choices I need to make in order to thrive in this life.”

“Anybody can do something extraordinary. It just takes seeing that possibility.”

Connect with Heather:

Heather’s Website

Republic of Freedom

Instagram

Facebook

Twin Tracks Expeditions

Creating a Personal Mission Statement with Anna Lundberg

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Anna Lundberg is a success coach and business strategist who helps people create businesses and build a lifestyle that allows them an unimagined sense of freedom, flexibility and fulfillment. She works individually with a select number of clients to help them reimagine success in their personal and professional lives and runs a group program that helps people take their ‘One Step Outside the 9 to 5’.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Anna, and asks Anna to share how she came to be a coach and how she learned what her mission was.

  • Kelly shares a story about her family’s mission statement.

  • Part of being successful is taking risks, but these don’t have to be crazy risks, simply stepping outside your comfort zone is enough.

  • Kelly shares the quote, “Your comfort zone is rarely comfortable.”

  • There’s a pain or a feeling of discomfort when you refuse to step outside your comfort zone.

  • Anna shares how she starts the process of creating her mission statement.

  • Man's Search for Meaning- by Viktor E. Frankl

  • Defining the meaning or purpose in our life is up to us, and it’s important because we often get so caught up in other’s definitions.

  • Anna provides tips and exercises that can help cut down on the overwhelm of finding the value / meaning of your life.

  • The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying - by Bronnie Ware

  • The Future Self Exercise

  • Timeline of Your Life Exercise

  • You do your best work when you are working on something that you’re good at and enjoy.

  • The Guiding Star Exercise

  • Kelly shares how she feels freer and more connected with herself  as she gets older.

  • Anna shares the elements of her Guiding Star.

  • Kelly asks Anna to share what her Inner Voice is asking her to do.

In Anna’s Voice:

“I feel like I’ve reached a lovely balance of using my experience in ways that I really enjoy, but also having more freedom to explore these new areas to help people in these areas.”

“Even though we talk about risk when you have your own business, it doesn’t mean that we’re taking all these crazy risks. It’s accepting that there’s a level of uncertainty because we can never know. But us being okay with it, being okay with being a little bit uncomfortable.”

“Some people find it quite overwhelming to define your purpose - it feels very big. It’s like you’re trying to find the meaning of life. And that can be quite scary and uncomfortable actually.”

“It’s up to you to define what that aim or purpose is. And I think the reason why it’s so important is because we get caught up in other people’s definitions.”

“Your mission statement is a beautifully crafted sentence or it’s some kind of visual tool like a vision board or some other format.”

“Looking back at your past experiences, looking at how you feel now, and looking into the future can be a great way to identify what you need more of and perhaps what you need less of as well.”

Connect with Anna:

Anna’s Website

Guiding Star Exercise

Facebook Group

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Mili Metz on Overcoming Procrastination

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Mili Metz was born and raised in Mumbai, India. She migrated to the US in middle school and continued her education on the East Coast. She holds a dual B.A. in Psychological & Brain Sciences and Public Health, Social Sciences from The Johns Hopkins University; a M.A. from Teachers College, Columbia University, and her doctoral work in Counseling Psychology is in progress at Georgia State University.

Currently, she is the Psychology Chair at a small liberal arts university in San Marcos, CA; owner of Open Hearts Open Minds (www.oh-om.com), a leadership consulting practice focused on helping millennial women thrive, featured columnist at Ask Mili on GirlSide Chats (www.girlsidechats.org), and an advisor at Swell Collective (www.swellcollective.org) a non-profit organization dedicated to collaborative leadership and conscious communication.  She is married to an active duty U.S. Marine with whom she shares a heart for service, love of learning, and commitment to authentic living. They have two kittens and a senior dog.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Mili and asks her to describe what procrastination and perfection mean to her.

  • Do you work best under pressure? It’s pretty common and Mili explains why.

  • Mili digs into why we procrastinate and how perfection plays a role in that.

  • Procrastinators often need to feel an urgency in order to get things done.

  • Perfectionism often has its roots back in our childhood.

  • Why charting out how long a task will take can actually help a procrastinator.

  • Mili gives an actionable tool to use to determine how long something will take.

  • Kelly gets real and vulnerable in this episode.

  • Authenticity is being attuned to your true self and meeting where you are.

  • How to embrace that you are both a masterpiece and a work in progress.

  • When you feel resistance, that is your mind telling you that you should actually try something.

  • Why stepping outside your comfort zone is so important to overcoming procrastination.

  • Mili shares how hot yoga helped her come to a breakthrough in being more present in life.

  • Mili shares her weekly practice and what her Inner Voice is telling her.

In Mili’s Voice:

“There are so many things that are genuinely pleasurable about giving yourself freedom to be present.”

“Something as small as being mindful about keeping a steady pace to my breath became very meaningful and pivotal shift towards true presence for me."

“If I had let myself remain in my comfort zone, I could never experience the profound change that has come from stepping out of it.”

“Redefining ourselves has to do with breaking out with the binary that we cannot be a masterpiece if we are work in progress.”

“Authenticity is being attuned to your true self and meeting where you are. Not where you should be, not where you could be, not where you have been. Right here, right now where you are”

Connect with Mili:

Mili’s Website

 

Synchronicity

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Synchronicity can be described as "meaningful coincidences." I just love the idea that God can send us a message at any time, all we have to do is be expecting it! Listen in on this short solo episode and get inspired to expect tiny daily miracles.

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The Mindset of Transformation with Corinne Crabtree

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Corinne Crabtree is the founder of Phit-N-Phat.com and host of the podcast Losing 100lbs with Phit-N-Phat. She lost 100lbs after battling obesity since the age of 9. Simple, healthy changes she made in her mind and life has helped her keep the weight off for 12 years. She learned how to love exercise, enjoy eating healthy, and worked on believing in herself without fail. The belief she COULD change her life was the key to learning what she needed TO change. Now she works with overweight women helping them lose their mental weight with the same small steps that helped her.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Corinne and asks her to share how she learned that mindset is so powerful in her life.

  • Journaling and how important it’s been on Corinne’s journey.

  • Removing shame from the process of losing weight and getting her mindset right.

  • Look inward to figure out why you keep stopping yourself from achieving whatever it is you want.

  • Change is possible, even in the toughest moments.

  • We get so afraid of failure that we tell ourselves we don’t know how to do something.

  • Tapping into your inner wisdom by journaling first thing in the morning.

  • What will allow you to finish the day proud?

  • The ladies discuss a few of their favorite journaling prompts.

  • Mindset = the action = result

  • Drop the massive to-do list and work on your mindset and belief in yourself.

  • Being committed to the changes that you want to make within yourself.

  • Most people are overeating because they want to escape some kind of emotion, avoid some kind of emotion, or create some kind of emotion that they’re not already getting.

  • Mental Weight and what Corinne means by that term.

  • How Corinne overcame her victim mentality.

  • Corinne shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Corinne’s Voice:

“I decided that I would never do anything that I wasn’t willing to keep doing for the rest of my life. I didn’t look for a diet.”

“I didn’t allow myself to think that anything I was doing was not enough. I just started saying that everything I do, I just needed to do a little bit better the next day."

“I started with a fundamental belief that change was possible and what I had been telling myself wasn’t working.”

“We get so afraid that we’re gonna fail that we tell ourselves we don’t know how rather than “I need to fail over and over again so I can figure out what that right way is.”

“Our brains get very messy. And when our thoughts are not put into some kind of order, it’s very hard to find the ones that you want to access.”

“I can ask myself one question: is this gonna help you finish today proud?”

“For me, feeling proud is all about knowing that I’m balancing life in a way that is not just about how much money I make; it’s not about how many things on my to-do list I got done and things like that. It’s more about are you really proud?”

“I was a victim to everything. I blamed everything. I was a happy person. I was the kind of person that everybody loved being around. But in my mind, the reason I wasn’t able to lose weight was always someone else’s fault. It’s my genes’ fault; my history growing up; my lack of success. I was so focused on taking no responsibility for it that I took no responsibility for it.”

Connect with Corinne:

Corinne’s Website

Corinne’s Free Course

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

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Crossfit Conversation with Tara Newman: How Physical Challenges Can Heal Us

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In this special episode of In Her Voice, Tara Newman of The Bold Leadership Revolution Podcast and I are joining forces to have a conversation about how Crossfit has helped us to heal ourselves.

In this episode specifically we are talking about how we both took on the challenge of doing the Crossfit Open for the first time this year, the lessons we learned, and what our goals are going forward.

We absolutely loved doing this special for you which will also be aired on Tara's podcast feed! If you loved this conversation and would like to hear more like this, please let me know! You can message both of us over on Instagram @kellyjcovert and @thetaranewman, or shoot me an email to kelly@kellycovert.com.

Be The Lighthouse with Bryn Drescher

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Bryn Drescher is an Expert in Confidence Building Through Presenting Offline and Offline. She has been using her unique brand of electric energy, humor, and insight to empower audiences and individuals to share their message to those that most need to hear it. She has spoken in the arenas of large and small business, education, and personal development.  Bryn believes that we all have what is necessary to achieve anything once we move beyond self-imposed limitations and blocks. Bryn is also passionate about youth and has devoted the last 6 years to speaking all over the Los Angeles Unified School District to high school students regarding being their best selves while pursuing their goals.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Bryn and asks her to share the lighthouse symbolism that Bryn loves.

  • Inspired Potential

  • Owning our power and light - aka. The Journey of Our Life

  • How to learn who they are.

  • Ask yourself how a friend would describe you with 3 words, and then ask a friend to choose 3 words that describes you.

  • Many people struggle with similar things that you struggle with, YOU can be the light for those people, by putting yourself out there.

  • We need the things that make you special, no matter what you do, share your gifts!

  • You don’t need to have your ducks in a row to share your story, just be one step ahead of those that you are teaching.

  • When you step into your gifts, your gifts are effortless to you.

  • Bryn shares how she helps to build confidence in online entrepreneurs and others.

  • No matter who you are or what you do, YOUR STORY will resonate with someone.

  • Others see all the good when you speak out, they’re not judging the freckle on your nose.

  • The Perfection Paradox

  • Bryn shares what her Inner Voice is telling her.

In Bryn’s Voice:

“I think it’s really important that people are out there shining the light and saying “you can do this, too. I’ve been where you’ve been.” You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just need to be one step ahead of people that you help.”

“Serving where you’re at and serving in a way you know you can.”

“You are right where you’re supposed to be for the level where you’re at, for your mindset or your consciousness in your journey where you can serve people at this level.”

“Stillness speaks. When you get still, all of a sudden these opportunities come to you.”

“People see the beauty in you if you’re willing to be open to it.”

Connect with Bryn:

Bryn’s Website

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

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Mindset Matters

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This episode is to get you thinking about how you respond to your thoughts - essentially your mindset. Do you let your thoughts stop you from doing what you really want to do? Do you let your own imagined stories become reality?

Mindset makes all the difference and this episode will help you begin to be more mindful of your own mindset.

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Sara La Delfa-Kirsch on Financial Empowerment

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Sara La Delfa-Kirsch is an expert in Marketing, Accounting and all things business. She is a mom of 2 boys and has owned a business in one form or another for the past 25 years, helping her clients generate well over $40 million in sales while increasing their profits. Sara has worked with small business owners in just about every industry and from around the world, assisting them in finding the right customers and to fall in love with their businesses again.

Her business is Marketing Is Not Selling - debunking business myths that hold people back from achieving true success and financial freedom while living life authentically and passionately.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Sara and asks her to describe what she means by financial empowerment for women.

  • Sara shares her backstory on how she got into working with finances for women.

  • Even if there is trust with your spouse, we as women have a responsibility to know more about our finances.

  • Tracking your finances may not be glamorous but keeping track week by week can change your life.

  • Having access to all of your accounts, this includes the usernames and passwords.

  • Remove any guilt for not having tracked your numbers earlier.

  • Don’t try to get all of your numbers organized within an hour. Give yourself the time you need.

  • Sara describes what resistance might look like for different individuals.

  • You must choose to listen to your Inner Voice, rather than your inner mean girl.

  • The ladies discuss practical tips to make your financial health better.

  • Bookkeeping may be unsexy, but it can be fun with the correct software that works for you.

  • Kelly shares how she and her husband handle the bill paying in their home.

  • Finances and purchasing of items is all about open communication with your significant other.

  • Sara shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her right now.

In Sara’s Voice:

“It’s really important to me to help women get that power back through simple things that we should have been taught as kids that most of us weren’t.”

“Instead of waiting to the end of the month, track expenses during the week. By the time the end of the month comes, you can look at your statement and be like, “I’ve already gotten all of this in here. Yep, everything matches up. It’s good.” It will just totally change your life.”

“When I say bookkeeping, it’s not only your personal bookkeeping or just keeping track of all your expenses, this could be businesses as well.”

“If your name is on an account - doesn’t matter what kind of account it is (credit card, bank account, savings, investments) - you need to have access to it and you need to be able to view the statements at any time of the day or night. That’s really step number one.”

“I think it’s really super important to forgive yourself for not taking action prior to having that conversation.”

Connect with Sara:

Sara’s Website

Best Bookkeeping Systems

Facebook

Twitter

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Rest

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Do you listen when your body asks you to rest, when your soul whispers (or maybe even yells) for you to slow down? In our world it's hard to prioritize rest without guilt...super hard. 

But until we can recognize that it is an essential part of our human-ness, we are cutting ourselves off from living our best life.

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Find Your Joy with Amy E. Smith

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Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Amy and asks her to share what joy is to her.

  • Joy is an emotional state that we thrive in.

  • Amy shares how she went from focusing on her big time makeup career to realizing it wasn’t bringing her real joy.

  • Why we look to external validations to bring us joy.

  • Amy shares a tool that she uses to retrain our brain and the way we handle emotions, using the acronym N.A.C.

  • How reading personal development, going to conferences and listening to podcasts can actually teach us that what is in our mind, isn’t always true.

  • We don’t need to believe everything that is running through our heads.

  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed and like you don’t know who you are, start with a no brainer exercise -- ask yourself, “What do you actually know is true?”

  • Stop listening to the screaming negative voice!

  • You have to make the choice to love yourself everyday, it’s okay to take baby steps to get there.

  • Amy shares what her current morning practice looks like.

  • Kelly asks Amy what her Inner Voice is asking her to do.

In Amy’s Voice:

“We are programmed and conditioned to be addicted to all sorts of things. What would shift if we actually wanted to be addicted to our own happiness and our own joy?”

“The things that actually lit me up were so far out of my consciousness at that point because I was completely enveloped by what I thought I should do and what achievement meant and what status meant and how that correlated with my worth.”

“When I started getting involved in personal development and taking all sorts of courses and conferences and coach trainings, I thought it was in service of me gathering a bunch of skills so that I could impart all that wisdom on other people. And what I didn't anticipate was getting cracked wide open myself.”

“I find that when we get locked into this idea of, I don't know who I am, I don't know what I like anymore. We just spiral out and we're not resourceful, we're not creative.”

“It's not about perfection, and it's not about, "Oh my god, you failed because you didn't do it." It's a, "Oh look at this addition that I have to my day." Even that is a perspective for me.”

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Jen Vertanen on Loneliness

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Jen Vertanen is a coach, mentor, speaker, and writer who is encouraging people to share the hard stories and start to heal the places that hurt. Jen knows the power of telling your story (hers stems from an emotionally abusive childhood) so often that the shame starts to fade away. 

Jen is also the creator and host of the podcast Going There with Jen Vertanen where she shares intimate conversations with people working to heal the places that hurt. She reminds people that we are never alone even though it oftentimes feels like it. 

Known for her candor, willingness to go there (especially when it’s uncomfortable), humor, and openness, Jen is often thanked for asking the hard to answer questions and exploring the dark bits – even when (especially when?) it’s awkward. 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Jen and asks her to describe what loneliness is to her.

  • The story of Jen’s loneliness; how she identified it and how she began to overcome it.

  • Jen explains why it can be so hard to reach out to make connections when we’re feeling lonely.

  • Shame often plays a large role in loneliness.

  • Jen remembers the post she put on Facebook that spoke about her loneliness and began her healing process.

  • Jen’s support network and how they help her.

  • What it means to mirror for someone.

  • Jen talks about how she went from thinking she wasn’t good enough to have a network to honoring who she really was.

  • Kelly’s five year old you, meditation

  • Why we need to take time to mother ourselves.

  • Self-Compassion - by Kristen Neff

  • Jen shares some of her self-mothering practices.

  • Jen describes what loneliness can lead to if not “treated.”

  • It takes digging and excavating to get to the root of what is causing the loneliness.

  • Jen uncovers how she learned that she was worthy.

  • The not so pleasant parts of our life, that shape who we are, Jen calls Silver Linings.

  • Jen shares what her Inner Voice is telling her to do.

In Jen’s Voice:

“Loneliness is filled with shame. It's filled with embarrassment and heartache. Who wants to say, ‘I have no friends?’ Who wants to say, ‘I feel isolated. I don't feel connected?’”

“It's hard to say, ‘My heart feels broken and lonely.’"

“I think it was a moment of bravery or just putting it out there of like, ‘Hey, I suffer from loneliness. You'd never guess it, that's okay. My guess is there are others that are lonely. Either comment here or privately and we'll go from there.’"

“It's knowing that I can reach out and say, ‘I'm not doing okay today. I would like some lifting up.’ And knowing that the person receiving it is not judging but wants to help lift me up, and that I will do the same for them.”

“I'm very good at reading people. I think that comes from an emotionally abusive childhood. You have to become good at reading people for survival.”

“I would attend retreats and I would be with groups of women and I had no clue. I was able to hold tremendous space for them and they mirrored that back to me, that I was in this very safe, very comfortable, loving, space for them to share openly.”

“Loneliness is isolation and not feeling connected. I question how on earth can you be a good mother, a good friend, a good partner, spouse, employee, employer, all of it. If you're thinking that way you are fooling yourself and it's exhausting.”

“One ginormous silver lining is that I am now able to have more empathy, more perspective, more understanding, more of everything so that I can go forward and try to help someone be and feel less alone.”

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