Perfectionism Revisited

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In today's solo episode I'll revisit how perfectionism can hold us back and where it flared up in my own life recently!!

If perfectionism is something you struggle with (can I get an AMEN??), be sure to check out my Overcoming Perfectionism course. It will be on sale for all recovering perfectionists for $29 through the end of January 2018!! 

Don't forget that January is my month of connection! Shoot me an email at kelly@kellycovert.com and let me know if perfectionism is something that you deal with. You can also connect with me on Instagram (@kellyjcovert).

Carly Mentlik of The Inner Rainbow Project

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Carly Mentlik has been teaching, counseling and creating curriculum and programs for children, tweens and teens for more than 15 years. Carly has a bachelor’s dual degree in special and elementary education and a master’s degree in counseling with a specialization in girls' emotional and social development, both from New York University. Carly integrates Western psychology and education approaches with her trainings in Eastern mindfulness, yoga, chakras and creative expression modalities. She founded the Inner Rainbow Project and created the Chakra Girls, with the mission to empower young girls with the confidence-building tools needed along their path through adolescence.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Carly shares what the Inner Rainbow Project is, who it helps, and how she created the program.

  • How we can do the inner work, and help the young girls around us learn to never dim their light.

  • Both Carly and Kelly share some vulnerable stories from their childhood.

  • By learning to speak your truth, you can teach the young girls in your life, to do the same.

  • Overcoming feelings of conceit to truly embrace who you are.

  • Allow yourself to truly embrace something you’re passionate about.

  • Carly and Kelly share how resistance shows up for them.

  • Carly’s powerful 108 positive affirmations poster, and Kelly’s favorites from the bunch.

  • Carly shares what her inner voice is telling her to do right now!

In Carly's Voice:

“The Inner Rainbow Project is a movement and a celebration of that true self and a movement to help it stay alive. For no girl to ever have to dim themselves or their light in order to fit in, and be loved.”

“Raising confident and kind girls is a huge piece of what I do. Women themselves need to revisit those times where they dimmed their own light, and perform consistent work on their own self and their own confidence. They need to really believe in themselves, and to do that inner work, and that radiates out to their daughters.”

“It’s really about allowing myself to follow something that I'm truly passionate about.”

“I want girls to understand you don't have to hide different aspects of your emotions, that being sad, or angry, or having anxiety, or depression, or whatever it is is not something that's shameful.”

“I am allowed to feel proud of myself.”

Connect with Carly:

Website

108 Positive Affirmations

Facebook

Instagram

Pinterest

Be Aligned

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Do you ever just feel the rub of not being aligned with your soul's true self? In this solo episode I dig into why it matters, how to identify when you are out of alignment, and how to get back in!

I'd love to connect with you about a time (maybe even now) that you felt out of alignment. Shoot me an email or connect with me on Instagram (@kellyjcovert) and share with me how you know when you are out and what you can do about it! This is a great exercise to get that awareness and intention around your personal alignment flowing!!

Make the Unconscious Conscious with Riana Milne

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Riana Milne is a Certified, Global Life, Dating and Relationship Coach, a #1 Best Selling author, a Life and Dating Coach for the new Docu-Series - Radical Dating – Finding Lasting Love Over 40; Host of her former TV show: Lessons in Life and Love, an educational speaker, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Trauma and Addictions Professional - for over 18 years in Delray Beach, Florida. She specializes in those who have had past Childhood, Dating or Relationship Trauma; and offers 1-on- 1, VIP Coaching and Online Virtual Coaching Programs for both Singles and Couples.

Riana’s free App: My Relationship Coach offers many videos and articles and her 5 star-rated books, LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve - and - LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose, and Success, addresses Life transitions, Personal Transformation, and Relationships with yourself and others.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Riana shares how she came to be who she is today

  • Adults often unconsciously bring childhood triggers into their adult love relationships.

  • Riana discusses the faulty coping mechanisms many adults use because of childhood traumas.

  • The love of a partner is very important, Riana tells us why.

  • In order to make the unconscious conscious you must know what the emotional triggers are, and how to deal with them.

  • Riana goes into great deal regarding the top 10 childhood traumas -- many of them aren’t as severe as you’d expect.

  • We make many of these traumas unconscious as we grow, as a survival technique.

  • You must become a successful single before trying to venture into a relationship.

  • Messages like “you’re stupid” or “you’re not good enough” can also come from coaches or teachers.

  • Riana shares how she balances out her heady research and her intuition.

  • Riana shares what her inner voice is asking her to do.

In Riana's Voice:

“Love is the first human primary need in Maslow's architect, hierarchy of needs, love and connection. So we all long for love.”

“The successful business woman often uses success in business to feed the ego that she did not get in accolades when she was growing up.”

“It takes a real education to make the unconscious conscious to know what the emotional triggers are, and how to deal with them to make them go away and stop the pattern forever.”

“It's really important that you become a successful single first before you start dating. You must get rid of any of the childhood patterns that you are bringing into the love relationships.”

“We have learned to control our work environment, very often women unconsciously control their partners. This is when they lose them or there's a lot of fights that happen. We had to learn to control our environment to have a successful life for ourselves and in my situation for our kids as well.”

“Trauma research has shown meditation to being extremely essential to rewiring the brain after trauma.”

Connect with Riana:

Website

Life & Love Training Academy

LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve

LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose, and Success

Facebook

Twitter

YouTube

Be Still

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Don't move. Be still. 

We hear and say these words all the time, but do we practice them? Listen in for why we need a practice of stillness, what can get in the way and how to get your practice started today.

January is my month of connection! Please shoot me an email and let me know what you are up to and what you would love to hear more of on the podcast! My email is kelly@kellycovert.com or message me over on Instagram (@kellyjcovert). I can't wait to connect with you!

Retrain Your Mind with Kara Loewentheil

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Kara Loewentheil has a B.A. from Yale and a J.D. from Harvard Law School and graduated both schools with honors. In her legal career she clerked for a federal appeals court judge, litigated in state and federal court, held several academic appointments, and ran a think tank. Today she is a Master Certified Coach who works with high-achieving feminist women who believe in empowerment, but don’t always feel empowered. Her cognitive-based tools and strategies help women learn how to literally rewire their brains to overcome social conditioning and insecurity. Or in other words, she teaches them how to unf*ck their brains so that they can create the confidence they need and the lives they want.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kara shares how she went from being a lawyer to a master certified coach.

  • High-achieving women are typically socialized to believe that what matters is what others think of us.

  • To create new habits and rewire our brain, we must learn to think differently.

  • You're a perfectionist if you want everything to be perfect and you think you would be happier if it were.

  • Kara shares some great ideas for reinforcing your new thoughts.

  • Even though Kara’s been doing this for years, she continues to practice and improve.

  • Your brain may think you’re going to die, but you will not.

  • Write down the new thoughts you want to practice on paper.

  • Separate yourself from your anxiety and you’ll find space to discover what you really want.

  • Switch every should in your life, to want and see what changes.

  • When you do something because you think somebody else wants you to, you are still just doing it because you want to have a thought or feeling about yourself.

  • We spend approximately 15% of our mental, emotional and physical energy feeling guilty and bad. If you clean that up and stop making it about you, you suddenly have energy and time to do something else for yourself or other people.

  • Kara shares what her inner voice is telling her to do.

In Kara's Voice:

“Women are socialized to think what matters about us is what everybody else thinks about us and we’re constantly sent these subtle social messages that women are inferior, that they are not good enough, that they get ahead because of their looks, that they’re more emotional, that they’re not as capable as men."

“If you want to rewire your brain, you have to learn to think differently.”

“Write down your thoughts. Write down the new thought you want to practice. Put it on paper.”

“Separating yourself from your anxiety gives you the space to discover what you really want.”

“Change all of your shoulds to wants and see what changes.”

“Be open to the idea that there could be a different way to think and feel and live and open to the idea that you would get your energy and time back.”
 

Connect with Kara:

Website

UnF*ck Your Brain Podcast

The Imposter Syndrome Rx (free gift)

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

A Beginner's Mind

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What is a beginner's mind and how can that change how you are showing up in any given situations? I was super inspired by an experience I had recently at a networking event to share this powerful tool with you!

Help me meet my goal to connect on a personal level with at least 5 listeners this month! Shoot me an email at kelly@kellycovert.com or connect with me on Instagram (@kellyjcovert) and let me know your name and how you are showing up in your world right now!! I can't wait to connect with you!

The Power of Affirmations with Lee Ann Hopkins

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Lee Ann Hopkins is the Host and Fellow Traveler on the Hooray Weekly podcast that "mines the sacred and every-day for Hooray!"  She is the author of You Are All That: Creating a Great Life with Affirmations, and Hooray for You: 365 Get-Up-and-Go-Go Quotes for Your Year.  She recently started blogging on Medium.com so you can follow her over there.  Lee Ann is the Founder of Hooray Living, a lively offering of fearless and fabulous living materials that include video, webinars, retreats and eBooks; and, lastly, she is the Head Hugger of the DC Hug Mob, a DC-area group that hugs in the public square, making the world a bit brighter one hug at a time.

She has spent her career in the helping professions as attorney, clergywoman, law professor, teacher, nonprofit executive director and counselor/coach. With this bundle of diverse and deep experience she helps individuals and communities connect with their own wisdom and gifts. She reminds us that our individual and collective purpose is to love and to teach love in all of our activities.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Lee Ann jumps right into how she was introduced to affirmations and how they’ve completely changed her life.

  • Are you familiar with the term negativity bias? Lee Ann explains what it is and how many of us have experienced it.

  • Coaxing a beautiful life out of ourselves, requires a lot of positive self-talk and cheerleading.

  • If you are feeling triggered by something someone says to you, take a step back and ask yourself, “Is this true?” before you allow yourself to react inwardly and outwardly.

  • Fear is a good thing, but sometimes it talks too much!

  • If you’re someone who struggles with affirmations because you feel that you’re lying to yourself, Lee Ann explains how you can overcome that.

  • Lee Ann describes the best way to write affirmations, to receive the desired effect.

  • Goals play a huge role in how Lee Ann creates her affirmations.

  • Lee Ann shares one of her current affirmations and why she’s chosen it. It’s a very moving part of the conversation.

  • Our brains do not like mental gymnastics, they want the clearest possible image we can provide. Write your affirmations accordingly.

  • Lee Ann helps us to understand how important it is to make sure our children focus on the positive, versus the negative, which they are most commonly drawn to.

  • If you begin feeling blah about your affirmations, Lee Ann provides a practice to bring back the excitement.

In Lee Ann's Voice:

“As I began daily doing my affirmations, I slowly, slowly, slowly noticed that life changed.”

“We have this negativity bias where we're scanning our minds and our worlds for all the things that can go wrong and it's really important to put something in that's positive.”

“I must say that much of the changes that I've experienced with my affirmations, is more of an internal change. That internal change is what is building a work of art for a life that is worth living.”

“I really do believe that much of my success in life has been because of this powerful positive practice that I do every single day.”

“I belong to myself, I am befriending myself. When I say "Hey, Lee Ann, I love you. I want to be your friend so that you can be a better friend, a better lover, a better partner, a better whatever to the world." I must belong to myself first.”

“Our brain is like Velcro for negative things. Which is why positive affirmations are so imperative.”

Connect with Lee Ann:

Website

Hooray Living

Hooray Weekly Podcast

Facebook

Twitter

You Are All That: Creating a Great Life with Affirmations

Hooray for You: 365 Get-Up-and-Go-Go Quotes for Your Year

My personal theme for the month is CONNECTION, and I want to connect with YOU! Please shoot me an email at kelly@kellycovert.com or connect with me over on Instagram (@kellyjcovert) and let me know who you are and how you are showing up in the world this year!!

A Look Back at 2017

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I thought I would put out one last episode this year, and I'm just getting it in under the wire on December 31!! I love to take time at the end of the year to reflect back on the lessons I've learned and to spend some time in deep gratitude for everything that has happened over the year.

I also am sharing some of my goals for the new year including getting to know you even better!! Please shoot me an email at kelly@kellycovert.com or a message on Instagram (@kellyjcovert) and introduce yourself! Tell me who you are being and how you plan on showing up in the world this year! 

If you want to take it a step further, schedule a free discovery call and we can take 20 minutes and really get to know each other!

I'm also re-imagining what community looks and feels like this year. If you have ideas for how we can connect on a deeper level let me know! Right now we have The Worthy Collective, but let's go even deeper!!

Here's to all we learned in 2017 and to seeing our vision become reality in 2018!!

Kimberly Lovell on Money as Our Teacher

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Kimberley Lovell is a Transformational Coach, Trainer & Holistic Business Mentor with a 30 year background in Transpersonal Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Healing, Coaching and Training.

An International Medium, Medical Intuitive Healer, Cert Science and Master Theta Healing® Practitioner and Instructor and Access Consciousness Bars® Facilitator.  Kimberley is a highly gifted intuitive and rapid mindset coach.

The founder of The Wealthy Business Goddess Show™ and the Wealthy Business Goddess University.™ Kimberley's mission is to transform world consciousness, heal the unconscious split between money and spirituality by inspiring, and empowering others to live a life of purpose, passion and prosperity, thereby creating a heaven on earth for all. Kimberley works with purpose driven entrepreneurs; Healers, Therapists, Coaches, Consultants, Trainers and Spiritual Entrepreneurs, worldwide to help them step more purposefully into their leadership and spiritual mission to manifest the life and business of their dreams while transforming the world and making fabulous money.  

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kimberly explains what she means when she says that money is our greatest teacher

  • Our beliefs in money and the huge role they play in our lives

  • Our negative money beliefs tend to crop up when our income goes up or down from where we are comfortable.

  • Kimberly shares how we can begin changing our money beliefs.

  • The Sacred Money Archetypes and how they were created.

  • The Connector Archetype

  • Kimberly shares some of her archetypes and how she has overcome them, and used them to her advantage.

  • You must follow your inner voice, but you must also do the work.

  • Being an energetic match with the vibration for whatever it is you desire.

  • Realist and Idealist

  • Kimberly discusses some of Kelly’s archetypes

  • Coaches and entrepreneurs we need to hold our clients as powerful and not buying into their stories.

  • Energy Healing Downloads

  • Kimberly shares what her inner voice is telling her.

In Kimberly's Voice:

“It's like we're movie writers. The movie of our life is the current story that's playing out.”

“There's this vision of what we would like to create and manifest in the world, and then there’s what's actually showing up.”

“How we do money is how we do everything.”

“We're more than our stories, and more than our beliefs, more than our feelings.”

“Lots of times we have oaths, and vows, and contracts around money. You may have taken a vow of poverty. The work that I do is about actually clearing the energy and clearing the belief.”

“It's safe for you to have abundance, to receive money, and to receive money for doing what you love to do. You don't have to work hard, you don't have to prove your worth.”

Connect with Kimberley:

Website

Wealthy Business Goddess Podcast

Free Sacred Money Archetypes quiz

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

How To Stop Feeling Like Sh*T with Andrea Owen

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Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.

She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her second book: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness is due out January 2, 2018 (Seal Press/Hachette Books).

When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Andrea and some of the amazing things she’s accomplished.

  • Andrea was involved in Roller Derby and shares what caused her to retire.

  • You have to allow yourself to feel the feelings.

  • Remove the mechanism you’re using to numb out your feelings.

  • There is always something to be grateful for, and having a gratitude practice is what helped bring Andrea back to life.

  • We get so caught up in learning what our purpose is, instead of just valuing the amazing life and path we have.

  • None of us have it all together.

  • High achievers value themselves the most for their achievements. We discuss how we can learn where this comes from and move past it.

  • My Solo Episode: Protect Your Energy

  • It’s time to embrace failure.

  • You are worthy no matter what.

  • Listening and trusting your gut instincts and reactions to things.

  • Meditating and how it can do you good.

  • Andrea shares what her inner voice is asking of her.

In Andrea's Voice:

“You're allowed to fall, you're allowed to totally eat shit, but there comes a time where you feel what you feel and then it’s time to get back up and do it.”

“I didn't have time for feelings. They were a distraction, they were too painful, they were too overwhelming.”

“We don't die from feeling our feelings, and they don't go away if we numb them out.”

“Emotions are our bodies way of expelling and processing what needs to happen.”

“None of us have it completely figured out. If someone's trying to sell you that I think it's snake oil. I'm a big fan of knowing that my purpose is my path, and I think that everyone's purpose is their path.”

“One of the most courageous things we can do is embrace failure.”


Connect with Andrea:

Permission to Give 100%

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I'm getting real and raw with you guys today. I'm totally coming out of a funk that had me down and out and not fit for public consumption. Seriously. And one of the big questions that came up for me was, "Why does it feel like I can be EITHER a good mom OR a good entrepreneur but not both?" 

This is what I'm digging into today. Come ready to be surprised by my conclusions.

The Inner Circle doors are open!! If you are ready to make a difference in 2018, this is the group for you. Click here to learn more and register.

Using Your Voice for Impact with Elsie Escobar

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Elsie Escobar works in the cross-section of technology, digital media & holistic living with a heavy bias on podcast production and creative use of audio. As a podcaster since 2006 she was the first female yoga podcaster with an audio show that has now been downloaded more than 5 million times. Currently she produces two podcasts about podcasting The Feed - The Official Libsyn Podcast and She Podcasts, the podcast for women about podcasting and new media from the woman's point of view. She's a die hard podcast junkie, who lives and breathes the medium and has the unique perspective of podcast listener, independent podcast producer and industry analyst/personality.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • The Inner Circle is open! Join us!

  • Kelly introduces Elsie and they dig right into why our physical voice is so important.

  • Elsie’s passion is in inspiring others to give voice to those things you have written down, on paper, through text or on a computer.

  • Why we’re afraid to use our physical voice.

  • Elsie shares how her struggle with using her voice began with her family, when she was very young.

  • How we can heal ourselves.

  • Allow yourself to be uncomfortable and challenge your habitual responses and behaviors.

  • Elsie goes deep when she talks about a post she made on Facebook and the reaction it generated.

  • We as women can make an impact with our voice, we must have courage.

  • It’s scary to put your voice out there, but you must continue to do it over and over again.

  • Kelly and Elsie talk about whether giving importance to our voice comes from within or is reflected upon us.

  • Listen first, then understand, then speak.

  • Elsie shares what her inner voice is asking her to do.

In Elsie's Voice:

“Voice is just ... It's everything.”

“What are we afraid of? I'm afraid of not being able to be heard, I'm afraid of crying in the middle of it and losing my power in the sense, or being perceived as emotional.”

“We must expand our capacity to be uncomfortable and to challenge our own habitual behaviors, our own responses”

“Empowering one person can empower everybody else.”

“Really diving into a conversation of privilege, there has to be listening. You must not talk.”


Connect with Elsie:

Website

Twitter

Instagram

She Podcasts

Words Matter

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Your words are powerful. They can actually cause physical reactions in your body, so just think about how important they are. Listen in as I talk about the powerful practice of using positive words.

The doors to The Inner Circle are open on December 4, 2017 for just 2 weeks! Now is the time for you to step into a place to support you in achieving your goals and making your vision and dreams a reality. This monthly membership program is a great way to create accountability, support and action in your life as a visionary! Click here to learn more and register!

Creating as Practice with Maria Wiklund

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Maria Wiklund grew up in a coastal town in the north of Sweden and has loved working with fabric and creating her own designs. It has always been a passion of hers, but only as a hobby because she previously worked as a communication coach and counselor.

When she moved to the US in 2009, she decided to take the opportunity to actually make something of her love for fabrics. As fate would have it, she stumbled upon felting and the rest is history.

Maria had no idea how it was done, but found it intriguing and beautiful and decided to do some research. She happened upon the the nuno felting technique, took a class and was hooked.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Maria shares how she and her family came to move to the US from Sweden after her children went to college.

  • This move is also what spurred her to investigate her passion for creating things.

  • When you don’t pursue something you love, there’s a chance you’ll become a grumpy old lady.

  • Give yourself permission to try something that interests you, even if you don’t enjoy it, that’s OK.

  • Maria shares how she knew this was her “thing”

  • Kelly and Maria discuss whether Maria’s an artist because of what she does, or because of who she is

  • Learn ways to stay true to your authentic self.

  • What does the term “real job” mean to you?

  • Maria shares a very touching story of how her grandmother helped move Maria to action.

  • Creativity and inner voice work together

  • Being in flow is a sense of timelessness.

  • Don’t be afraid to stretch yourself to do things that you don’t want to do, but are good for you.

In Maria's Voice:

“If you feel like you want to try something new, if you don't do that, there's a big risk that you end up being a grumpy old lady.”
 

“It's about being authentic to yourself, and exploring something new, and giving yourself permission to do that, and actually feel that this is who you are.”
 

“It's this whole thing about who you are inside, and what you look like on the outside, because I think a lot of us, many of us really want to look like... We put on all this stuff because we want to be something.”


“It can't just be inspiration. It has to be hard work, too, because otherwise, at the end of the day, I have to make some money off of what I'm doing, right?”


“When we acknowledge that a real job can be many different things, It doesn't have to be being employed by someone. It doesn't have to be having the steady paycheck.”

Connect with Maria:

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Gratitude Changes Everything - REPLAY!!

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There is something magical about gratitude. It has the power to change a moment of despair to a moment of delight. It can completely shift our attitudes, our perspectives and our lives! Learn how to use gratitude to bring more of what you want into your life today!

5 Days of Journaling for Visionary Women begins on Tuesday, 11/28/17!! Click here to sign up for free!! 

How Your Inner Mean Girl is Holding You Back with Jaclyn Mellone

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Jaclyn Mellone is a mindset and marketing mentor, speaker and co-hostess of the All Up In Your Lady Business podcast. She helps passionate, creative entrepreneurs channel their zone of genius, tackle their inner mean girls, and build Know, Love and Trust with themselves and their tribe.

When she’s not helping entrepreneurs create their own version of success, from the inside out, you can find Jaclyn spending time with her husband Chris, their 2 adorable children, Eleanor and Marshall or being lounged on by their fur-child, Louie… most likely in a sea of naked Barbies and dismantled Lego sets. 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Jaclyn shares what she allowed her inner critic to hold her back from (it’s really juicy and good!)

  • The stories we tell ourselves and how we can move past them.

  • We talk journaling (and don’t forget to sign-up for my next journaling challenge).

  • Jaclyn describes the different ways that fear can show up in our lives.

  • How to keep your “inner mean girl” in check

  • There are times when we need to recreate our self-image.

  • Both ladies are former “stuffers” and have a process to work through what comes up.

  • Episode 39 - Self-Forgiveness

  • The emotional rush you can get when you regular journal through your experiences.

  • Setting reasonable expectations for yourself when it comes to the time you give yourself to meditate or journal, for example.

  • Jaclyn shares what her inner voice is telling her right now.

In Jaclyn's Voice:

“I'm really setting my eyes on things that might be unexpected and being open to that and not trying to plan it all out.”

“We're just telling ourselves a story, and that's not necessarily the way it has to be. It's just the way that we're seeing it, and we're so trained to see it through a certain lens.”

“Building self-awareness is going to unlock a lot of answers for you.”

“Things feel different. They feel heavier. They feel bigger when they're in our head, so if we're able to get them out, we're able to look at it with a little bit more of an analytical brain.”

“I've done so much mindset work, too -- that it allows me to have a deep understanding of my clients needs.”

“Procrastination is a form of self-sabotage.”

Connect with Jaclyn:

 

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Slow Down

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Do you ever feel like you are always running out of time or just rushing to get everything done? I've been doing a deep dive into my own beliefs and thoughts around time and I'm excited to share some of my ahas with you! Here is the link to the article I mentioned in this episode on The Four Questions We're Unconsciously Asking Each Other.

Slow down and make time for our upcoming 5 Days of Journaling for Visionary Women!! Let's get clear on our vision for 2018, listen to our inner voice with confidence and courageously create a year that will make a difference! Sign up for free here.

Rebecca Wong on Intimacy

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Rebecca Wong is a relationship therapist, consultant, and host of the Practice Of Being Seen podcast. She's also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvelous and all that’s messy. 

Rebecca believes that when you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world - and that invites everyone around you to do the same. She dreams that we can collectively learn, grow and lean into the possibility of leaving behind a more resilient and compassionate planet then we were born into. 

Rebecca practices as an LCSW-R in NY's Hudson Valley where she also resides with her husband, their spunky children and a handful of four legged furry mischief makers.

 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • In order to have intimate relationships with others, we must learn and know ourselves.

  • We talk about getting in tune with ourselves and our feelings and sitting with the uncomfortable.

  • Intimacy happens in the stickiness of a situation.

  • Learn and grow from what makes you feel uncomfortable.

  • How to start the process.

  • You must connect with yourself, before you can fully connect with others.

  • "Connectfulness” and what it means to Rebecca.

  • Learning how to turn into your inner voice.

  • Fear is a portal where creativity blossoms.

  • If you’re beginning to experience fear, you’re in exactly the right spot -- continue to work through it.

  • Connectfulness is very much about intimacy. It's very much about discovering, and finding, and honing into where you find meaning in your life.

  • Play is a quest for safety.

  • Rebecca shares what her inner voice is saying.
     

In Rebecca's Voice:

“Being able to sit and sink into the mud of the moment, that's where the intimacy happens. That's where the growth is. It's in the not knowing place.”

“When you truly see yourself, you create a ripple effect that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world, and that invites those around you to do the same.”

“Sit with those uncomfortable parts of yourself, and learn from it, grow from it”

“Fear is a portal to creativity. Being able to sit with the anxiety and worry, you’ll begin to see the things that need to change.”

“The opposite of being stuck is movement. Creativity is movement.”

“Play is a quest for safety.”

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