How To Stop Feeling Like Sh*T with Andrea Owen

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.

She is the proud author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her second book: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness is due out January 2, 2018 (Seal Press/Hachette Books).

When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or hosting retreats, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Andrea and some of the amazing things she’s accomplished.

  • Andrea was involved in Roller Derby and shares what caused her to retire.

  • You have to allow yourself to feel the feelings.

  • Remove the mechanism you’re using to numb out your feelings.

  • There is always something to be grateful for, and having a gratitude practice is what helped bring Andrea back to life.

  • We get so caught up in learning what our purpose is, instead of just valuing the amazing life and path we have.

  • None of us have it all together.

  • High achievers value themselves the most for their achievements. We discuss how we can learn where this comes from and move past it.

  • My Solo Episode: Protect Your Energy

  • It’s time to embrace failure.

  • You are worthy no matter what.

  • Listening and trusting your gut instincts and reactions to things.

  • Meditating and how it can do you good.

  • Andrea shares what her inner voice is asking of her.

In Andrea's Voice:

“You're allowed to fall, you're allowed to totally eat shit, but there comes a time where you feel what you feel and then it’s time to get back up and do it.”

“I didn't have time for feelings. They were a distraction, they were too painful, they were too overwhelming.”

“We don't die from feeling our feelings, and they don't go away if we numb them out.”

“Emotions are our bodies way of expelling and processing what needs to happen.”

“None of us have it completely figured out. If someone's trying to sell you that I think it's snake oil. I'm a big fan of knowing that my purpose is my path, and I think that everyone's purpose is their path.”

“One of the most courageous things we can do is embrace failure.”


Connect with Andrea:

Permission to Give 100%

I'm getting real and raw with you guys today. I'm totally coming out of a funk that had me down and out and not fit for public consumption. Seriously. And one of the big questions that came up for me was, "Why does it feel like I can be EITHER a good mom OR a good entrepreneur but not both?" 

This is what I'm digging into today. Come ready to be surprised by my conclusions.

The Inner Circle doors are open!! If you are ready to make a difference in 2018, this is the group for you. Click here to learn more and register.

Using Your Voice for Impact with Elsie Escobar

Elsie Escobar works in the cross-section of technology, digital media & holistic living with a heavy bias on podcast production and creative use of audio. As a podcaster since 2006 she was the first female yoga podcaster with an audio show that has now been downloaded more than 5 million times. Currently she produces two podcasts about podcasting The Feed - The Official Libsyn Podcast and She Podcasts, the podcast for women about podcasting and new media from the woman's point of view. She's a die hard podcast junkie, who lives and breathes the medium and has the unique perspective of podcast listener, independent podcast producer and industry analyst/personality.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • The Inner Circle is open! Join us!

  • Kelly introduces Elsie and they dig right into why our physical voice is so important.

  • Elsie’s passion is in inspiring others to give voice to those things you have written down, on paper, through text or on a computer.

  • Why we’re afraid to use our physical voice.

  • Elsie shares how her struggle with using her voice began with her family, when she was very young.

  • How we can heal ourselves.

  • Allow yourself to be uncomfortable and challenge your habitual responses and behaviors.

  • Elsie goes deep when she talks about a post she made on Facebook and the reaction it generated.

  • We as women can make an impact with our voice, we must have courage.

  • It’s scary to put your voice out there, but you must continue to do it over and over again.

  • Kelly and Elsie talk about whether giving importance to our voice comes from within or is reflected upon us.

  • Listen first, then understand, then speak.

  • Elsie shares what her inner voice is asking her to do.

In Elsie's Voice:

“Voice is just ... It's everything.”

“What are we afraid of? I'm afraid of not being able to be heard, I'm afraid of crying in the middle of it and losing my power in the sense, or being perceived as emotional.”

“We must expand our capacity to be uncomfortable and to challenge our own habitual behaviors, our own responses”

“Empowering one person can empower everybody else.”

“Really diving into a conversation of privilege, there has to be listening. You must not talk.”


Connect with Elsie:

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Words Matter

Your words are powerful. They can actually cause physical reactions in your body, so just think about how important they are. Listen in as I talk about the powerful practice of using positive words.

The doors to The Inner Circle are open on December 4, 2017 for just 2 weeks! Now is the time for you to step into a place to support you in achieving your goals and making your vision and dreams a reality. This monthly membership program is a great way to create accountability, support and action in your life as a visionary! Click here to learn more and register!

Creating as Practice with Maria Wiklund

Maria Wiklund grew up in a coastal town in the north of Sweden and has loved working with fabric and creating her own designs. It has always been a passion of hers, but only as a hobby because she previously worked as a communication coach and counselor.

When she moved to the US in 2009, she decided to take the opportunity to actually make something of her love for fabrics. As fate would have it, she stumbled upon felting and the rest is history.

Maria had no idea how it was done, but found it intriguing and beautiful and decided to do some research. She happened upon the the nuno felting technique, took a class and was hooked.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Maria shares how she and her family came to move to the US from Sweden after her children went to college.

  • This move is also what spurred her to investigate her passion for creating things.

  • When you don’t pursue something you love, there’s a chance you’ll become a grumpy old lady.

  • Give yourself permission to try something that interests you, even if you don’t enjoy it, that’s OK.

  • Maria shares how she knew this was her “thing”

  • Kelly and Maria discuss whether Maria’s an artist because of what she does, or because of who she is

  • Learn ways to stay true to your authentic self.

  • What does the term “real job” mean to you?

  • Maria shares a very touching story of how her grandmother helped move Maria to action.

  • Creativity and inner voice work together

  • Being in flow is a sense of timelessness.

  • Don’t be afraid to stretch yourself to do things that you don’t want to do, but are good for you.

In Maria's Voice:

“If you feel like you want to try something new, if you don't do that, there's a big risk that you end up being a grumpy old lady.”
 

“It's about being authentic to yourself, and exploring something new, and giving yourself permission to do that, and actually feel that this is who you are.”
 

“It's this whole thing about who you are inside, and what you look like on the outside, because I think a lot of us, many of us really want to look like... We put on all this stuff because we want to be something.”


“It can't just be inspiration. It has to be hard work, too, because otherwise, at the end of the day, I have to make some money off of what I'm doing, right?”


“When we acknowledge that a real job can be many different things, It doesn't have to be being employed by someone. It doesn't have to be having the steady paycheck.”

Connect with Maria:

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Gratitude Changes Everything - REPLAY!!

There is something magical about gratitude. It has the power to change a moment of despair to a moment of delight. It can completely shift our attitudes, our perspectives and our lives! Learn how to use gratitude to bring more of what you want into your life today!

5 Days of Journaling for Visionary Women begins on Tuesday, 11/28/17!! Click here to sign up for free!! 

How Your Inner Mean Girl is Holding You Back with Jaclyn Mellone

Jaclyn Mellone is a mindset and marketing mentor, speaker and co-hostess of the All Up In Your Lady Business podcast. She helps passionate, creative entrepreneurs channel their zone of genius, tackle their inner mean girls, and build Know, Love and Trust with themselves and their tribe.

When she’s not helping entrepreneurs create their own version of success, from the inside out, you can find Jaclyn spending time with her husband Chris, their 2 adorable children, Eleanor and Marshall or being lounged on by their fur-child, Louie… most likely in a sea of naked Barbies and dismantled Lego sets. 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Jaclyn shares what she allowed her inner critic to hold her back from (it’s really juicy and good!)

  • The stories we tell ourselves and how we can move past them.

  • We talk journaling (and don’t forget to sign-up for my next journaling challenge).

  • Jaclyn describes the different ways that fear can show up in our lives.

  • How to keep your “inner mean girl” in check

  • There are times when we need to recreate our self-image.

  • Both ladies are former “stuffers” and have a process to work through what comes up.

  • Episode 39 - Self-Forgiveness

  • The emotional rush you can get when you regular journal through your experiences.

  • Setting reasonable expectations for yourself when it comes to the time you give yourself to meditate or journal, for example.

  • Jaclyn shares what her inner voice is telling her right now.

In Jaclyn's Voice:

“I'm really setting my eyes on things that might be unexpected and being open to that and not trying to plan it all out.”

“We're just telling ourselves a story, and that's not necessarily the way it has to be. It's just the way that we're seeing it, and we're so trained to see it through a certain lens.”

“Building self-awareness is going to unlock a lot of answers for you.”

“Things feel different. They feel heavier. They feel bigger when they're in our head, so if we're able to get them out, we're able to look at it with a little bit more of an analytical brain.”

“I've done so much mindset work, too -- that it allows me to have a deep understanding of my clients needs.”

“Procrastination is a form of self-sabotage.”

Connect with Jaclyn:

 

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Slow Down

Do you ever feel like you are always running out of time or just rushing to get everything done? I've been doing a deep dive into my own beliefs and thoughts around time and I'm excited to share some of my ahas with you! Here is the link to the article I mentioned in this episode on The Four Questions We're Unconsciously Asking Each Other.

Slow down and make time for our upcoming 5 Days of Journaling for Visionary Women!! Let's get clear on our vision for 2018, listen to our inner voice with confidence and courageously create a year that will make a difference! Sign up for free here.

Rebecca Wong on Intimacy

Rebecca Wong is a relationship therapist, consultant, and host of the Practice Of Being Seen podcast. She's also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvelous and all that’s messy. 

Rebecca believes that when you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world - and that invites everyone around you to do the same. She dreams that we can collectively learn, grow and lean into the possibility of leaving behind a more resilient and compassionate planet then we were born into. 

Rebecca practices as an LCSW-R in NY's Hudson Valley where she also resides with her husband, their spunky children and a handful of four legged furry mischief makers.

 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • In order to have intimate relationships with others, we must learn and know ourselves.

  • We talk about getting in tune with ourselves and our feelings and sitting with the uncomfortable.

  • Intimacy happens in the stickiness of a situation.

  • Learn and grow from what makes you feel uncomfortable.

  • How to start the process.

  • You must connect with yourself, before you can fully connect with others.

  • "Connectfulness” and what it means to Rebecca.

  • Learning how to turn into your inner voice.

  • Fear is a portal where creativity blossoms.

  • If you’re beginning to experience fear, you’re in exactly the right spot -- continue to work through it.

  • Connectfulness is very much about intimacy. It's very much about discovering, and finding, and honing into where you find meaning in your life.

  • Play is a quest for safety.

  • Rebecca shares what her inner voice is saying.
     

In Rebecca's Voice:

“Being able to sit and sink into the mud of the moment, that's where the intimacy happens. That's where the growth is. It's in the not knowing place.”

“When you truly see yourself, you create a ripple effect that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world, and that invites those around you to do the same.”

“Sit with those uncomfortable parts of yourself, and learn from it, grow from it”

“Fear is a portal to creativity. Being able to sit with the anxiety and worry, you’ll begin to see the things that need to change.”

“The opposite of being stuck is movement. Creativity is movement.”

“Play is a quest for safety.”

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Letting Go of Your Inner Good Girl with Steena Marie Brown

Steena Marie Brown’s journey has gone from good-little-girl to Sexual Empowerment Coach for women and their men. This required a deep release of fear, shame, perfectionism, and self-sabotaging patterns. Training to become a birth doula...and her healing path through marriage, motherhood, and entrepreneurship...taught Steena the art of sacred, aligned, sexy success on her own terms which she now uses in her work with her husband, Movement Specialist, Adam Brown. Her unique blend of deep energy alchemy and soul work awakens women to their inner V-Power (that’s V for vagina, voice, and visibility) as they shift out of victimhood and live as fully embodied women - transforming their lives, relationships, and work.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • How Steena went from a very good girl, to learning how to fully embracing her deviant, bad boy energy.

  • Steena shares her fantasy of turning a bad boy, good.

  • Steena defines sexuality as who you are and how you relate to others. So it literally comes into every relationship

  • Steena’s book “Worship Her

  • Perfectionism can safely play a role in some areas of our life, and not in others.

  • Learning how to choose your priorities and being integrity with yourself

  • Steena explains the middle ground between good and bad.

  • I am, is a fully embodied statement and ownership of who you are.

  • V-Power - vagina, voice and visibility - can help us shift how we speak our truth and show up in the world.

  • When you’re actually in power, sex doesn’t have to necessarily be separate from your business.

  • The process of self-massage

In Steena's Voice:

“We all have a different kind of perfectionism.”

“I find that there is so much stigma around sexually pleasuring ourselves that most women can barely give themselves a platonic massage."

“Tuning into this deep power in our vagina and in the sacral space, we find that there is this deep well of confidence and magnetism and allure and just this magic that we each have.”

“We have to take care of ourselves first and then we can start moving into action that will put out this power."

“We’ve been in this really intense birth process, and it’s time to expand and go out in the world and really start to serve even more.”

Connect with Steena:

Protect Your Energy

Ever wonder why you feel so physically drained after having a hard conversation? I mean, it's not like you are running a marathon for that time, right? Ever wonder why you have a tendency to get super negative or down when you are really tired?? We are energetic beings and our energy is all connected - physically, emotionally and spiritually. Listen to this episode for ways to protect that energy as you move through life each and every day.

Summer Innanen on Radical Self-Love

Summer Innanen is a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self worth, and confidence. She helps women all over the world to stop living behind the numbers of their scales through her private and group coaching at summerinnanen.com. She is the best selling author of Body Image Remix, creator of the You, On Fire online program and host Fearless Rebelle Radio, a podcast dedicated to anti-dieting, body positivity, and feminism.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • We've been conditioned to believe that our value is in how we look and that it’s our currency in this culture
     

  • All of our time, all of our energy, and often our money goes into the way that we look, the size of our body, what are other people think of us, how we present ourselves to the male gaze. It takes away from knowing who we really are.
     

  • Diet culture, and why it doesn’t work!
     

  • Summer shares her struggles of pivoting from weightloss coach to body image coach.
     

  • We are wired to want to avoid emotional discomfort as humans beings.
     

  • We’ve been a victim of this system of oppression [how we look being our currency], and it’s okay to be angry.
     

  • Starting the process of learning to love yourself
     

  • Get rid of everything that doesn’t make you feel good, and then learn how to speak to yourself more compassionately.
     

  • When you get to a point where you’re not always thinking about your body, you start to find time to do other things that you’ve always dreamt of doing.
     

  • Accept all of who you are, and nurture the spots that are tender and need love.
     

In Summer’s Voice:

“What I found was that the stronger I was with my voice, the stronger I was with my convictions, the more praise I received, and the more followers I received.”

"I'd rather be somebody's cotton candy ice cream than everybody's vanilla."

“It's like learning a new language. So the metaphor that I like to use just to give people a good solid idea of how hard this process is that it's like trying to learn let's say german in the United States while everyone around you is speaking english. It's hard because everyone around you is still speaking the language of diet culture, everyone around you is still performing the behavior of diet culture.”

“Immerse yourself in body positive communities."

“When you start to deprogram all the limitations that have been put on you,  you start to really know who you are and have more space in your mind, you realize that you are so capable of powerful and incredible things and you’re capable of changing other people's lives.”

“Any time we step outside our comfort zone we're going to hear the voice of our inner critic.”

“Laughter and sarcasm are such a good form of therapy.”

Connect with Summer:

Elizabeth DiAlto on Wild Self-Love

Known for her raw, honest and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality, Elizabeth DiAlto is the founder of Wild Soul Movement, author of Untame Yourself, and host of the popular Untame The Wild Soul Woman podcast. She’s been a teacher, leader, speaker, coach and trainer to groups and individuals for 15+ years in three different industries, and she also consults organizations ranging from start-ups to large corporations such as Dove UK.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • What it means to “free the women”

  • The Wild Soul Pledge http://wildsoulmovement.com/pledge/

  • How Elizabeth honors and respect herself, despite what anyone else thinks or says

  • Elizabeth explains how to tap into our own sensual energy

  • Body image and what it means to wholly love yourself

  • Women need to give themselves permission to trust, Elizabeth explains how

  • Elizabeth shares how she has “untamed” herself

  • A daily practice doesn’t need to be long and drawn out, use the time you have to move into alignment

  • Elizabeth shares what her inner voice is telling her to do

In Elizabeth’s Voice:

“Let’s liberate ourselves from the mindsets, from the belief systems, from the programming and conditioning, and the systems of our culture that have us feeling not free or not worthy or like we don't belong or that we're not capable or that we're not good enough.”

“Sensuality is an absolute epic and innate bridge into aliveness”

“We're all a work of art. There's something beautiful about everyone.”

“It's about untaming yourself because you've been tamed by everyone else's rules.”

“The mind judges. The mind is constantly evaluating and placing value on things, but the body is discerning. The body knows.”

Connect with Elizabeth:

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Dr. Melody Moore on Fierce Self-Love

Melody Moore, Ph.D., RYT is a social entrepreneur, a licensed Clinical Psychologist, yoga teacher, author, and speaker. She is the founder of the Embody Love Movement Foundation, a non-profit whose mission is to empower girls and women to celebrate their inner beauty, commit to kindness, and contribute to meaningful change in the world. Dr. Moore’s work has been featured in the books Yoga and Body Image (eds. Klein and Guest-Jelly) and Yoga and Eating Disorders: Ancient Healing for Modern Illness (eds. Costin and Kelly) as well as National Geographic Magazine, Yoga Journal, Yoga International, Mantra, Elephant Journal, and Origin Magazine. She created the collegiate BodyImage3D program for Delta Delta Delta, and is their subject matter expert on self-love and body acceptance. She is the National Eating Disorder Association’s advice columnist, an advisor for World Muse, and a faculty member for Off the Mat, Into the World, a social-profit that empowers leaders to become conscious activists. In 2015, she was featured as one of ten “Game Changers” by the Yoga Journal and chosen as one of 100 “Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide” by EBW2020.
 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • How women “grow into” body dissatisfaction in their families of origin

  • What FIERCE self-love looks like and feels like

  • How self-love is contagious

  • How to love ourselves despite of all of our darkness and imperfections

  • How the practice of yoga plays into Melody's practice of self-love

  • Yoga is about feeling and not doing

  • How can we release our shame around being who we are

  • When we release our own self-criticism we are also able to release our judgement of others

  • What it means to “outsource your self-worth” and how to change that

In Melody's Voice:

Offer yourself the chance to keep coming back to the truth of who you are.”

The more loving I am toward myself, the more you're going to love you in my presence.”

It's necessary to learn to be with ourselves.”

I'm not waiting any more to love myself.”

Our brilliance comes to us in stillness.”
 

Connect with Melody:

What Are You Creating?

What we focus on expands. So what are you focusing on? Your dreams? Your desires? Your world-changing vision?

Or your heartbreak and sorrow, the past, or negative thoughts that bombard you throughout the day.

We get to choose everyday what we want to nurture, so let's start getting really clear on that and setting the intention to create something beautiful and amazing.

I'm excited to welcome in several new coaching clients who are ready to nurture their big vision. Wondering what inner voice coaching with me is like? Sign up for a free discovery call and let's chat about your dreams and what that would feel like! 

In Her Voice Ep. 48: Jill Catherine on Authentic Self-Love

Jill Catherine, a woman of many expressions in the world, is a professional dancer and drummer, speaker, author, and educator, who helps others to integrate body-mind-spirit. Her work in the world is not just a job; it is an extension of her heart.

A seasoned communications professional since 2003, Jill has been speaking, educating and inspiring others on topics including eating disorders, body image, women’s issues, finding purpose, emotional intelligence, and life’s big questions. She has worked in corporate, non-profit arts, human services, and higher education sectors. Currently, Jill is the Spokesperson and Lead Warrior for Ophelia’s Place, a member of the Oiselle Muses, and the author of the recently published book, A New Body Consciousness.

An all-around athlete, Jill was a collegiate volleyball player and NCAA Final Four Finalist. She bridged into the world of cultural dance and drum arts in 2002, and has been studying in the styles of West African, Brazilian, Cuban, Indian, and Hawaiian, both in the states and abroad. Her movement is a unique blend of the traditions she studied with her own authentic expression.

Embracing all cultures and religions, Jill’s artistry centers around personal and global peacemaking, empowerment, love of self and body, and the understanding of our body as an instrument to be of purpose, service, and expression in the world.
 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • What it means to be a “body-centered” person

  • A video of Jill's dancing and drumming

  • How Jill uses movement to connect with her inner voice and body and teach women how to do the same

  • Using forms of movement as an active practice of self-love

  • How to stay authentic through moments of our own shame

  • How to respond to negative thoughts about your body

  • The power of affirmations and intentions as a practice of self-love

  • Jill's book, A New Body Consciousness

     

In Jill's Voice:

In our body is where our head connects with our heart.”

Our body is our instrument to be in the world and to do what we are called to do.”

I listen to how my body wants to move.”

You have the power to choose a different thought.”

What could we be doing, expressing, living and loving if we stopped spending our energy focusing on changing our bodies?”

Connect with Jill:

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In Her Voice Ep. 47: Living With Vision

Why do we need to live with vision? How will it make a difference in our lives? How do we get clear on it and then what do we do with it once we have it?? All of this and more in this episode of In Her Voice.

To learn more and register for Wake Up Worthy, my one-day journaling and yoga retreat on October 27, 2017, go to www.kellycovert.com/retreat.

Can't make the retreat? No worries! Let's sit down for a discovery call!! I'd love to hear about your vision and see if I might be able to support you in that. Click here to schedule a free discovery call now.