Mili Metz on Overcoming Procrastination

Mili Metz was born and raised in Mumbai, India. She migrated to the US in middle school and continued her education on the East Coast. She holds a dual B.A. in Psychological & Brain Sciences and Public Health, Social Sciences from The Johns Hopkins University; a M.A. from Teachers College, Columbia University, and her doctoral work in Counseling Psychology is in progress at Georgia State University.

Currently, she is the Psychology Chair at a small liberal arts university in San Marcos, CA; owner of Open Hearts Open Minds (www.oh-om.com), a leadership consulting practice focused on helping millennial women thrive, featured columnist at Ask Mili on GirlSide Chats (www.girlsidechats.org), and an advisor at Swell Collective (www.swellcollective.org) a non-profit organization dedicated to collaborative leadership and conscious communication.  She is married to an active duty U.S. Marine with whom she shares a heart for service, love of learning, and commitment to authentic living. They have two kittens and a senior dog.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Mili and asks her to describe what procrastination and perfection mean to her.

  • Do you work best under pressure? It’s pretty common and Mili explains why.

  • Mili digs into why we procrastinate and how perfection plays a role in that.

  • Procrastinators often need to feel an urgency in order to get things done.

  • Perfectionism often has its roots back in our childhood.

  • Why charting out how long a task will take can actually help a procrastinator.

  • Mili gives an actionable tool to use to determine how long something will take.

  • Kelly gets real and vulnerable in this episode.

  • Authenticity is being attuned to your true self and meeting where you are.

  • How to embrace that you are both a masterpiece and a work in progress.

  • When you feel resistance, that is your mind telling you that you should actually try something.

  • Why stepping outside your comfort zone is so important to overcoming procrastination.

  • Mili shares how hot yoga helped her come to a breakthrough in being more present in life.

  • Mili shares her weekly practice and what her Inner Voice is telling her.

In Mili’s Voice:

“There are so many things that are genuinely pleasurable about giving yourself freedom to be present.”

“Something as small as being mindful about keeping a steady pace to my breath became very meaningful and pivotal shift towards true presence for me."

“If I had let myself remain in my comfort zone, I could never experience the profound change that has come from stepping out of it.”

“Redefining ourselves has to do with breaking out with the binary that we cannot be a masterpiece if we are work in progress.”

“Authenticity is being attuned to your true self and meeting where you are. Not where you should be, not where you could be, not where you have been. Right here, right now where you are”

Connect with Mili:

Mili’s Website

 

Synchronicity

Synchronicity can be described as "meaningful coincidences." I just love the idea that God can send us a message at any time, all we have to do is be expecting it! Listen in on this short solo episode and get inspired to expect tiny daily miracles.

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The Mindset of Transformation with Corinne Crabtree

Corinne Crabtree is the founder of Phit-N-Phat.com and host of the podcast Losing 100lbs with Phit-N-Phat. She lost 100lbs after battling obesity since the age of 9. Simple, healthy changes she made in her mind and life has helped her keep the weight off for 12 years. She learned how to love exercise, enjoy eating healthy, and worked on believing in herself without fail. The belief she COULD change her life was the key to learning what she needed TO change. Now she works with overweight women helping them lose their mental weight with the same small steps that helped her.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Corinne and asks her to share how she learned that mindset is so powerful in her life.

  • Journaling and how important it’s been on Corinne’s journey.

  • Removing shame from the process of losing weight and getting her mindset right.

  • Look inward to figure out why you keep stopping yourself from achieving whatever it is you want.

  • Change is possible, even in the toughest moments.

  • We get so afraid of failure that we tell ourselves we don’t know how to do something.

  • Tapping into your inner wisdom by journaling first thing in the morning.

  • What will allow you to finish the day proud?

  • The ladies discuss a few of their favorite journaling prompts.

  • Mindset = the action = result

  • Drop the massive to-do list and work on your mindset and belief in yourself.

  • Being committed to the changes that you want to make within yourself.

  • Most people are overeating because they want to escape some kind of emotion, avoid some kind of emotion, or create some kind of emotion that they’re not already getting.

  • Mental Weight and what Corinne means by that term.

  • How Corinne overcame her victim mentality.

  • Corinne shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.

In Corinne’s Voice:

“I decided that I would never do anything that I wasn’t willing to keep doing for the rest of my life. I didn’t look for a diet.”

“I didn’t allow myself to think that anything I was doing was not enough. I just started saying that everything I do, I just needed to do a little bit better the next day."

“I started with a fundamental belief that change was possible and what I had been telling myself wasn’t working.”

“We get so afraid that we’re gonna fail that we tell ourselves we don’t know how rather than “I need to fail over and over again so I can figure out what that right way is.”

“Our brains get very messy. And when our thoughts are not put into some kind of order, it’s very hard to find the ones that you want to access.”

“I can ask myself one question: is this gonna help you finish today proud?”

“For me, feeling proud is all about knowing that I’m balancing life in a way that is not just about how much money I make; it’s not about how many things on my to-do list I got done and things like that. It’s more about are you really proud?”

“I was a victim to everything. I blamed everything. I was a happy person. I was the kind of person that everybody loved being around. But in my mind, the reason I wasn’t able to lose weight was always someone else’s fault. It’s my genes’ fault; my history growing up; my lack of success. I was so focused on taking no responsibility for it that I took no responsibility for it.”

Connect with Corinne:

Corinne’s Website

Corinne’s Free Course

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

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Crossfit Conversation with Tara Newman: How Physical Challenges Can Heal Us

In this special episode of In Her Voice, Tara Newman of The Bold Leadership Revolution Podcast and I are joining forces to have a conversation about how Crossfit has helped us to heal ourselves.

In this episode specifically we are talking about how we both took on the challenge of doing the Crossfit Open for the first time this year, the lessons we learned, and what our goals are going forward.

We absolutely loved doing this special for you which will also be aired on Tara's podcast feed! If you loved this conversation and would like to hear more like this, please let me know! You can message both of us over on Instagram @kellyjcovert and @thetaranewman, or shoot me an email to kelly@kellycovert.com.

Be The Lighthouse with Bryn Drescher

Bryn Drescher is an Expert in Confidence Building Through Presenting Offline and Offline. She has been using her unique brand of electric energy, humor, and insight to empower audiences and individuals to share their message to those that most need to hear it. She has spoken in the arenas of large and small business, education, and personal development.  Bryn believes that we all have what is necessary to achieve anything once we move beyond self-imposed limitations and blocks. Bryn is also passionate about youth and has devoted the last 6 years to speaking all over the Los Angeles Unified School District to high school students regarding being their best selves while pursuing their goals.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Bryn and asks her to share the lighthouse symbolism that Bryn loves.

  • Inspired Potential

  • Owning our power and light - aka. The Journey of Our Life

  • How to learn who they are.

  • Ask yourself how a friend would describe you with 3 words, and then ask a friend to choose 3 words that describes you.

  • Many people struggle with similar things that you struggle with, YOU can be the light for those people, by putting yourself out there.

  • We need the things that make you special, no matter what you do, share your gifts!

  • You don’t need to have your ducks in a row to share your story, just be one step ahead of those that you are teaching.

  • When you step into your gifts, your gifts are effortless to you.

  • Bryn shares how she helps to build confidence in online entrepreneurs and others.

  • No matter who you are or what you do, YOUR STORY will resonate with someone.

  • Others see all the good when you speak out, they’re not judging the freckle on your nose.

  • The Perfection Paradox

  • Bryn shares what her Inner Voice is telling her.

In Bryn’s Voice:

“I think it’s really important that people are out there shining the light and saying “you can do this, too. I’ve been where you’ve been.” You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just need to be one step ahead of people that you help.”

“Serving where you’re at and serving in a way you know you can.”

“You are right where you’re supposed to be for the level where you’re at, for your mindset or your consciousness in your journey where you can serve people at this level.”

“Stillness speaks. When you get still, all of a sudden these opportunities come to you.”

“People see the beauty in you if you’re willing to be open to it.”

Connect with Bryn:

Bryn’s Website

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

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Mindset Matters

This episode is to get you thinking about how you respond to your thoughts - essentially your mindset. Do you let your thoughts stop you from doing what you really want to do? Do you let your own imagined stories become reality?

Mindset makes all the difference and this episode will help you begin to be more mindful of your own mindset.

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Sara La Delfa-Kirsch on Financial Empowerment

Sara La Delfa-Kirsch is an expert in Marketing, Accounting and all things business. She is a mom of 2 boys and has owned a business in one form or another for the past 25 years, helping her clients generate well over $40 million in sales while increasing their profits. Sara has worked with small business owners in just about every industry and from around the world, assisting them in finding the right customers and to fall in love with their businesses again.

Her business is Marketing Is Not Selling - debunking business myths that hold people back from achieving true success and financial freedom while living life authentically and passionately.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Sara and asks her to describe what she means by financial empowerment for women.

  • Sara shares her backstory on how she got into working with finances for women.

  • Even if there is trust with your spouse, we as women have a responsibility to know more about our finances.

  • Tracking your finances may not be glamorous but keeping track week by week can change your life.

  • Having access to all of your accounts, this includes the usernames and passwords.

  • Remove any guilt for not having tracked your numbers earlier.

  • Don’t try to get all of your numbers organized within an hour. Give yourself the time you need.

  • Sara describes what resistance might look like for different individuals.

  • You must choose to listen to your Inner Voice, rather than your inner mean girl.

  • The ladies discuss practical tips to make your financial health better.

  • Bookkeeping may be unsexy, but it can be fun with the correct software that works for you.

  • Kelly shares how she and her husband handle the bill paying in their home.

  • Finances and purchasing of items is all about open communication with your significant other.

  • Sara shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her right now.

In Sara’s Voice:

“It’s really important to me to help women get that power back through simple things that we should have been taught as kids that most of us weren’t.”

“Instead of waiting to the end of the month, track expenses during the week. By the time the end of the month comes, you can look at your statement and be like, “I’ve already gotten all of this in here. Yep, everything matches up. It’s good.” It will just totally change your life.”

“When I say bookkeeping, it’s not only your personal bookkeeping or just keeping track of all your expenses, this could be businesses as well.”

“If your name is on an account - doesn’t matter what kind of account it is (credit card, bank account, savings, investments) - you need to have access to it and you need to be able to view the statements at any time of the day or night. That’s really step number one.”

“I think it’s really super important to forgive yourself for not taking action prior to having that conversation.”

Connect with Sara:

Sara’s Website

Best Bookkeeping Systems

Facebook

Twitter

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Rest

Do you listen when your body asks you to rest, when your soul whispers (or maybe even yells) for you to slow down? In our world it's hard to prioritize rest without guilt...super hard. 

But until we can recognize that it is an essential part of our human-ness, we are cutting ourselves off from living our best life.

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Find Your Joy with Amy E. Smith

Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Amy and asks her to share what joy is to her.

  • Joy is an emotional state that we thrive in.

  • Amy shares how she went from focusing on her big time makeup career to realizing it wasn’t bringing her real joy.

  • Why we look to external validations to bring us joy.

  • Amy shares a tool that she uses to retrain our brain and the way we handle emotions, using the acronym N.A.C.

  • How reading personal development, going to conferences and listening to podcasts can actually teach us that what is in our mind, isn’t always true.

  • We don’t need to believe everything that is running through our heads.

  • If you’re feeling overwhelmed and like you don’t know who you are, start with a no brainer exercise -- ask yourself, “What do you actually know is true?”

  • Stop listening to the screaming negative voice!

  • You have to make the choice to love yourself everyday, it’s okay to take baby steps to get there.

  • Amy shares what her current morning practice looks like.

  • Kelly asks Amy what her Inner Voice is asking her to do.

In Amy’s Voice:

“We are programmed and conditioned to be addicted to all sorts of things. What would shift if we actually wanted to be addicted to our own happiness and our own joy?”

“The things that actually lit me up were so far out of my consciousness at that point because I was completely enveloped by what I thought I should do and what achievement meant and what status meant and how that correlated with my worth.”

“When I started getting involved in personal development and taking all sorts of courses and conferences and coach trainings, I thought it was in service of me gathering a bunch of skills so that I could impart all that wisdom on other people. And what I didn't anticipate was getting cracked wide open myself.”

“I find that when we get locked into this idea of, I don't know who I am, I don't know what I like anymore. We just spiral out and we're not resourceful, we're not creative.”

“It's not about perfection, and it's not about, "Oh my god, you failed because you didn't do it." It's a, "Oh look at this addition that I have to my day." Even that is a perspective for me.”

Connect with Amy:

Website

The Joy Junkie Show Podcast

Stand Up For Yourself Without Being a Dick (Amy’s free eBook)

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Jen Vertanen on Loneliness

Jen Vertanen is a coach, mentor, speaker, and writer who is encouraging people to share the hard stories and start to heal the places that hurt. Jen knows the power of telling your story (hers stems from an emotionally abusive childhood) so often that the shame starts to fade away. 

Jen is also the creator and host of the podcast Going There with Jen Vertanen where she shares intimate conversations with people working to heal the places that hurt. She reminds people that we are never alone even though it oftentimes feels like it. 

Known for her candor, willingness to go there (especially when it’s uncomfortable), humor, and openness, Jen is often thanked for asking the hard to answer questions and exploring the dark bits – even when (especially when?) it’s awkward. 

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Jen and asks her to describe what loneliness is to her.

  • The story of Jen’s loneliness; how she identified it and how she began to overcome it.

  • Jen explains why it can be so hard to reach out to make connections when we’re feeling lonely.

  • Shame often plays a large role in loneliness.

  • Jen remembers the post she put on Facebook that spoke about her loneliness and began her healing process.

  • Jen’s support network and how they help her.

  • What it means to mirror for someone.

  • Jen talks about how she went from thinking she wasn’t good enough to have a network to honoring who she really was.

  • Kelly’s five year old you, meditation

  • Why we need to take time to mother ourselves.

  • Self-Compassion - by Kristen Neff

  • Jen shares some of her self-mothering practices.

  • Jen describes what loneliness can lead to if not “treated.”

  • It takes digging and excavating to get to the root of what is causing the loneliness.

  • Jen uncovers how she learned that she was worthy.

  • The not so pleasant parts of our life, that shape who we are, Jen calls Silver Linings.

  • Jen shares what her Inner Voice is telling her to do.

In Jen’s Voice:

“Loneliness is filled with shame. It's filled with embarrassment and heartache. Who wants to say, ‘I have no friends?’ Who wants to say, ‘I feel isolated. I don't feel connected?’”

“It's hard to say, ‘My heart feels broken and lonely.’"

“I think it was a moment of bravery or just putting it out there of like, ‘Hey, I suffer from loneliness. You'd never guess it, that's okay. My guess is there are others that are lonely. Either comment here or privately and we'll go from there.’"

“It's knowing that I can reach out and say, ‘I'm not doing okay today. I would like some lifting up.’ And knowing that the person receiving it is not judging but wants to help lift me up, and that I will do the same for them.”

“I'm very good at reading people. I think that comes from an emotionally abusive childhood. You have to become good at reading people for survival.”

“I would attend retreats and I would be with groups of women and I had no clue. I was able to hold tremendous space for them and they mirrored that back to me, that I was in this very safe, very comfortable, loving, space for them to share openly.”

“Loneliness is isolation and not feeling connected. I question how on earth can you be a good mother, a good friend, a good partner, spouse, employee, employer, all of it. If you're thinking that way you are fooling yourself and it's exhausting.”

“One ginormous silver lining is that I am now able to have more empathy, more perspective, more understanding, more of everything so that I can go forward and try to help someone be and feel less alone.”

Connect with Jen:

Website

Podcast: Going There with Jen Vertanen

Facebook

Instagram

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Activate Your Superpowers

Do you believe that we all have superpowers? Are you ready to discovery and activate your own??

In today's episode I'm sharing some questions you can ask to discover your superpowers and how to activate them through conscious practice! Listen along and activate yours and then join me in a challenge this week to highlight the superpowers of those around us. Tell at least 3 people you are close to what you think their amazing superpower is!

Share this episode with them as you do it if you don't want them to think you are too crazy!! www.kellycovert.com/89

And if you are ready to use your superpowers for good and start living out the vision of your life where you are using your inner voice and living with purpose and passion, sign up for a discovery call with me today! Let's chat about what your superpowers are and how you can begin using them in your own life! Click here to sign up for your free discovery call.

Visionary Spotlight: Kristy Norbert of Empower Her Network

Kristy Norbert, Executive Director and Co-founder of Empower Her Network, appreciates that circumstance is all that separates her reality from those of marginalized populations. Kristy has spent 18 years leveraging her social worker background as an advocate for the vulnerable among us. Empower Her Network benefits from all Kristy learned and experienced during her time as Executive Director of Boys Hope Girls Hope of Baltimore and Her Future Coalition. 

She runs transparent programs with the goal of building up those in need towards a day where they can support themselves. Kristy is a returned Peace Corps Volunteer, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Volunteer field hockey Coach at Connecticut College, private clinician, and Co-Founder and Executive Director of Empower Her Network. Kristy enjoys spending time in any adventure with her husband, her two boys, and her dog. She resides in New London, CT.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Kristy and allows her to share what Empower Her Network is.

  • Human trafficking is happening right here, in the United States and Kristy is on a mission to end it.

  • Kristy shares how some women come to be in human trafficking situations.

  • As individuals of privilege, we need to bring more awareness around how we can start change.

  • Kristy shares how the idea of the Empower Her Network came to be and how she powered through any apprehension or fears.

  • Kristy has known what she is meant to do since she was 8 yrs old but does regular check-ins with herself to ensure that she is still happy.

  • When you love what you do and want to do it 24 hours a day, forcing yourself to step away can actually make you BETTER at your job.

  • What is holding you back from what you are being pulled to do?

  • Every women wants to be free and independent. They want to be able to pay their own bills and take care of their children. They don’t want to ask for help.

  • Women have this yearning to connect and help other women. They want to feel a sense of belonging.

  • Kristy shares what her Inner Voice is tell her to do.

In Kristy’s Voice:

“Anyone in my family, or any of my friends would say as soon as you tell me I can't do something, or challenge me to do something, ever since I was a little girl, I'm going to do it.”

“I don't think I had fear around creating the Empower Her Network. I think I had tons of excitement, and I felt ready. I felt like this is it."

“I've always meant to give a voice to those who don't have a voice and who aren't seen by society."

“If I'm not being challenged, if my brain is not being challenged, and my spirit's not being challenged, and I'm not trying to make my kid's world, and their kid's world a little bit better, than I wouldn't be sleeping well at night, or I wouldn't be able to feel the joy that I feel and the sadness that I feel. So it's part of making yourself whole.”

“I just think it took me awhile to get to this point of knowing it's okay to work really hard, and it's okay not to work.”

“You're supposed to be exactly who you're supposed to be, whether you stay home, or you work all the time, or whatever it is. You're all of those things.”

“We want to build a group of women who want to support each other and continuously open those doors for each other, because there are many things that we can all offer each other.”

Connect with Kristy:

Website

Empowerment Bracelet

Donate to Empower Her Network

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

An Inner Voice Meditation

Today I’m giving you a practice. A meditation just for you to help you connect with your inner voice. Listen to it once or over and over. It will be a different experience every time you listen. 
This is for you. Because you are amazing and you have everything you need right inside of you. You just have to listen. 

To experience an inner voice coaching session, sign up for a free discovery call with me today. www.kellycovert.com/discovery.

A New Model for Love with Isabell Springer

Dr. Isabell Springer is a marriage and relationship therapist and a lifelong rule-breaker. Her divorce set her on a path to revolutionize the field of self-help and construct a new model for love. Passionate about personal growth and tired of the trial and error approach, Isabell founded LovEd, a self-improvement company committed to revolutionizing the way we love ourselves and others. She believes, when people have the courage to heal themselves they can become the people they were meant to be. When she’s not busy changing the game of love, she’s cleaning a litter box and raising a son to be an extraordinary human.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Isabell and they dive right into the interview.

  • Isabell shares the story of how she has always been a rule-breaker.

  • The cultural conditioning that teaches us, as children, that we are not lovable.

  • Isabell shares how she create her New Model for Love and how she uses it to heal relationships.

  • Kelly asks Isabell to dive into how emotional maturity comes into play in a relationship.

  • Isabell’s program teaches us how to identify where I baggage comes from and how to handle it.

  • Self-awareness is the best way to truly create and develop a relationship.

  • Isabell’s work shows couples who have years invested how to identify what’s working and what’s not and she provides the tools you need to heal and re-create your relationship.

  • We don’t even know what baggage we’re carrying that can undermine our success.

  • Intuition is basically our old wiring.

  • Our ability to hear our inner voice is directly tied to how emotionally mature we are.

  • It’s important to know our value and our worth.

  • Isabell shares what her inner voice is telling her to do.

In Isabell’s Voice:

“You have to break rules in order to stand up for lots of things. Letting go of being polite, and doing the "right thing", or what culture says is the right thing, and listening to your inner voice, and listening to and embracing what you believe is your truth, and just standing up for what is your truth.”

“The message is that even to our own self detriment, when we sacrifice what we need and what we want, and what's important to us in order to have someone like us, or accept us, for being the measure for our value and our worth, we then abandon ourselves. We lose ourselves.”

“Every love relationship is comprised of two components, and that is romantic attraction, and emotional maturity.”

“Emotional maturity is the awareness of self, and your impact on others.”

“All of these experiences that we're all experiencing on some level and some kind of variation growing up, unless we're tending to that and being able to identify that and heal those past impactful experiences, we are inadvertently dragging them unconsciously into our love relationships.”

“Emotional maturity is something that we can grow, if we grow it on purpose.”

Connect with Isabell:

Website

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

YouTube

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Visionary Spotlight: Heather Avis - Shouter of Worth

Heather Avis is wife to her handsome and hardworking man Josh, and mother to the adorable Macyn, Truly and August and Author of "The Lucky Few" (available everywhere books are sold). After working as an Education Specialist she found herself as a full-time stay at home mom when she and her husband adopted their first daughter, Macyn, in 2008. Shortly thereafter, in 2011, they adopted their second daughter, Truly. And in 2013, their son August was born and came home to be theirs. Heather currently resides in Southern California where between oatmeal making, diaper changing and dance parties she shares her heart by putting words on paper and using her hit Instagram account @macymakesmyday, to share the awesomeness of all things Down syndrome and adoption. She cares fiercely for the underdog and believes God's goodness and beauty are found in the most seemingly uncomfortable places."

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Kelly introduces Heather and invites her to deeply share her story.

  • Heather Avis, advocate and shouter of worth.

  • Heather shares how she learned worthiness from her children.

  • Understanding our own worthiness from parenting our kids.

  • How Heather’s children have opened her eyes  to the systemic issues around us that are oppressing others and taking away other’s worth.

  • Heather always knew she was destined to become a shouter of worth and she shares her touching story.

  • The work you're doing in your circle of your sphere of influence is sacred and powerful and important and no one needs to know about it for it to be important. It's important because it's the work that you're supposed to be doing.

  • The ladies discuss how Heather and her husband decided to adopt Macyn.

  • Every step you take builds more courage to do more.

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  • Advocacy work is hard, Heather shares how she bumps into her struggle regularly, but continues to move forward.

  • Our greatest lessons learned are from our children.

  • Heather shares her daily practice and it is one we can all do.

  • Heather shares what her inner voice is telling her to do right now.

In Heather’s Voice:

“There's a make up about my personality and a god design with who I am that allows me to step into the role as advocate or shouter of worth in a way that is natural to who I am.”

“It is a bummer as a mom when you know that people don't see your children as worthy because they don't fit into that typical mold.”

“There was always this track in my life and in my heart towards an underdog even when I was little. I remember at school if I ever saw someone left out or hurting, I just couldn't even stand it. I couldn't stand the thought of somebody not being included and not being cared for.”

“It's just one foot in front of the other, one step at a time.”

“You just have to have a posture of humility when you're doing this work. I think the bravest thing is to humbly say something.”

Connect with Heather:

Website

The Lucky Few Book

Facebook

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The Power of Rest

In today's solo episode, I'm sharing my own story about how I had to learn the important lesson of the power of rest. It wasn't learned easily OR quickly, but it was finally learned deeply! I hope this resonates with you as you navigate your choices about what to say yes and no to.

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Dropping Into Our Feminine Power with Sonja Shradha Devi

Sonja Shradha Devi, Intimacy & Empowerment Guide, Facilitator and Healer, empowers women to show up in their bodies, their sexuality and their relationships in a powerful and feminine way and LIVE their sensual truth. Based in Bali, Shradha travels the world offering powerful group rituals and retreats, intimacy workshops and empowerment sessions. Online she shares potent but practical tools and keys which open the door to a whole new world of sensual embodiment, empowered sexuality and conscious relationships.

Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:

  • Shradha shares how she found herself guiding women through this process of finding and owning their own sensuality.
  • Surrendering to the flow of your Inner Voice.
  • Until you become aware, you may not be know that you are shut down to parts of yourself.
  • Shradha shares how her understanding of her feminine power, and sacred power has evolved.
  • “When that connection is activated then we're like a living vessel for life to work through us.”
  • Shardha shares some of the blocks we may experience and how we can move past them.
  • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself - by Kristin Neff
  • Self-love & Self-Care are all about practice.
  • Shradha shares her own self-practice.
  • “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” -Zen proverb
  • Tools for creating the base of love connection.
  • Shradha shares what her inner voice is telling her.

In Shradha’s Voice:

“I became really devoted to exploring my body and exploring what it feels like to be guided from deep within rather than from my ideas and from my fears and my desire for validation, and ideas about what I should do.”

“I had to go through a process of seeing, uncovering the spaces that I was avoiding while not being fully present with myself. I actually had to grow through a process of seeing the ways that I'm experiencing the emotional content that I was avoiding, that was hidden and shut down.”

“What I've noticed is that as soon as their conditions are right, a woman will just start unfolding and blossoming, it just happens naturally”

“Tension in the body creates more tension, and then creates tension in the mind, and it creates more tension in the body.”

“When the energy is flowing then emotions start flowing more and you actually start to feel your emotions rather than having them trapped inside your body.”

“My inner voice is asking me to go even deeper into trust, and to allow spaciousness, and the kind of support that comes from out of nowhere, and it's trusting that, that's holding me the whole time.”

Connect with Shradha:

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What's Your Story

So often we experience life through the lens of the story we are telling ourselves about who we are or who we need to be. This can be debilitating and will steal our joy. Today I share why it is so valuable to be open to a different story - a story that will empower you and help you to own and love all of who you are.

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