Inspired Potential
/Sign up for my free 5 Days of Journaling on Inspired Potential here.
Heather Dominick on Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs
/Heather Dominick is a woman who is impressively successful, and highly spiritual. Heather is the winner of the 2015 Best of Manhattan Coaching Award and creator of the 2014 Stevie Award winning virtual event A Course In Business Miracles®: 21-Day Discovery Series. She has appeared on Lifetime Television and has been published in numerous books. An exceptional facilitator and teacher, Heather is known for creating a safe, sacred community for true transformation. She has helped thousands of HSE®s release lifelong limiting beliefs, overcome fears and learn how to build their business in a way that actually feels so good that they can’t help but create solid, sustainable, high level financial success. Heather is also the founder and leader of the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur® movement.
Here are some of the big topics we talked about…
It can be such a gift to be a Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur (HSE)
HSE’s can learn to approach overwhelm to be grounded, at peace, and successful
Whether you run into or away from the fire, or a little of both, a clear understanding of HSE traits helps you move into creativity under pressure
Trust and allowing your process to look differently are key
Heather went through dark doubt on being in her industry before she self-assessed as highly sensitive and began to apply what she learned to her work. Now she still has a seven-figure business but her experience is much more positive.
In Heather’s Voice
“A Highly Sensitive Person’s nervous system is wired differently, interpreting information and sense stimulation at a much high degree.”
“Being self-employed, the potential for overwhelm is staggering.”
“Highly Sensitives are extremely creative by nature.”
“When you tap into your creative strength, everything about being self-employed that perhaps felt so imprisoning can become an enlightening and fun experience.”
“The willingness for a shift absolutely requires a deep aspect of trust. The irony is that most of us who are Highly Sensitive have learned the exact opposite.”
“When I first heard the phrase and understood more from Dr. Elaine Aron’s work, it surprised me not that I was an HSP, only that I was off-the-charts highly sensitive.”
“I had a group of 25 female entrepreneurs I was working with take Dr. Aron’s assessment and not surprisingly every person was highly sensitive. What surprised me is that not one of them wanted to be highly sensitive. They saw it as a detriment. That room full of talented coaches, healers, and creative entrepreneurs is what really began what is now the HSE movement.”
Connect with Heather
If you are interested in learning even more about Heather’s Work, I encourage you to sign up for her LIVE Teleclass on Wednesday January 9th, 2019 at 12pm, EASTERN, where she will be sharing some important insights she sees are needed for us in 2019 now more than ever and the changes she’ll personally be making to her business as a result. Click here to register.
It's Okay To Want Something Different
/Don't end this year by beating yourself up over what you didn't accomplish. Instead use these three intentions to help give you perspective, joy and a great start on your goals for 2019!
A new 5 Days of Journaling Challenge will begin on January 14! Be sure you are on my email list so you don't miss out on the sign-up when it comes out! Click here to get on the list!
Monique Lang on Connecting with Your Core Self
/Monique Lang, LCSW, has trained extensively in many models of psychotherapy and mindfulness, providing her with a wealth of experience to help heal the whole person—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She has expertise in trauma treatment and teaches at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Monique is coauthor of Journey to Wholeness, and author of Healing from Post-Traumatic Stress, Meditations for Healing, and Ceremonies for Healing.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about
Learning to connect with your core self and inner knowing
Traumatic events happen to all of us
As a therapist she helps release the burdens, both physiological and psychological
Monique emphasizes that there are many paths to healing
Paying attention psychologically, asking questions, listening to when you learned
Being present with what is, with gentleness and lovingness
Reiki as asking to allow the energy to come through
Humor and compassion for self for not meditating perfectly!
In Monique’s Voice
“If you are in freeze and there is no way to release the physiological as well as the narrative of what happened, it gets stuck in the body.”
“I think it helps to have someone mirror, reflect, and ask the questions you wouldn’t ask yourself.”
“The core Self is the essence of who we are, that which connects us to spirit and energy. In meditation when you’re fully yourself and fully not yourself is Self. You’re just there in that liminal space. It is beautiful but not overly helpful in managing your life. Thus ‘parts’ [of Self] develop to help us live our life.”
“When you bring understanding and compassion to whatever is coming, you’re present. And when you’re present, you’re in self.”
“Where and how did I learn to not pay attention? Where and how did I learn to drive myself to exhaustion? No Blame. Curiosity.”
“Try stopping for three minutes. There are a zillion ways to meditate. It’s finding those ways inside yourself. There is no one way.”
“You don’t have to do it right and you can’t do it wrong.”
Connect with Monique
Hard Work
/The hard work begins when the work gets hard. An interesting perspective on what hard work means and how to listen to your inner voice to know when to push through and when to take a break.
Stop Being Careful
/You can either play it safe or you can take risks. Which will it be for you?
Allowing Yourself to be Seen with Kala Philo
/Kala Philo is a marketing video strategist for women who are the face of their brand and business. A marketing video producer for over 15 years, Kala founded The Ultimate System for Fab Videos, Finally Done, to teach clients a powerful, simple system to create and leverage smartphone videos and transform their marketing and engagement. She believes that the rise of online video is nothing short of a revolution, and she is passionate about simplifying video to empower thousands of women to develop confidence and mirror their unique brilliance on Video. A few years ago, Kala fulfilled a lifelong dream of downsizing to free up time and resources to travel solo while building her online business. Today Kala uses Mexico City as her homebase and co-produces the slow travel lifestyle blog La Vida with Wings with her guapo Mexican partner, Sergio Zavala.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about
Kala tells how she stripped away everything she had and began her location-independent business
She and Kelly discuss the privilege of having access to video as a resource for women who are the face of their business
There are a billion women who don’t necessarily have the opportunity to put up video and leverage that
Being your authentic self on video creates reaffirming feedback and helps you to be known and trusted in the online sphere
Tips for getting clarity on what your fears are to using video
Why brains are wired to be mesmerized by video
Business benefits of using video, including your website’s Google rankings
In Kala’s Voice
“I’m more of who I am than I’ve ever been, at 55 years old.”
“Every person is called to make a journey.”
“If you don’t like what you’re hearing and seeing in the world but you’re not stepping out with your own authentic voice, maybe you should share.”
“There are people out there who need what you’re offering.”
Connect with Kala
Originality vs. Authenticity
/If you have ever worried about not being original, this is the episode for you! I'm riffing on originality vs. authenticity and why it really does matter for you to share what your inner voice is asking you to share!
If you loved this episode, let me know over on Instagram or shoot me an email! I love to hear from In Her Voice listeners!!
This episode is sponsored by The Peaceful Mama Program with Lindsay Parmer. If you are looking to let go of stress and have more calm and joy in your life, you will love this 3 week program that focuses on daily meditation, journaling and essential oils! It begins on November 25, 2018, and I'll be joining in too! Click here to learn more and get signed up!
Bernadette Doyle on Trusting and Willingness
/Bernadette Doyle is a transformational expert and the founder of the Online Profits University, an online school that teaches entrepreneurs how to create new income streams. Her entrepreneurial journey began at the age of 26 where she was successfully trading her time for money and found herself overwhelmed and constantly hustling despite how successful she was. After the birth of her first son, Bernadette found that her own success had become an anchor. As the demands on her time grew, suddenly she needed a team and to house and manage that team. Her previous business model was simply unsustainable. Soon after, Bernadette fully switched to an online model and soon found herself freed of her constraints. By packaging her expertise into products and online programs and connecting with customers by teleconference and webinar, she doubled her income in her first year as a new mother, all with time to spend with her family. By 2008, Bernadette had generated a million dollars in online sales and even masterminded personally with Richard Branson, all with the free time to be a single mother to her two children.
Here are some of the big topics we talked about:
As Bernadette started in business she began learning resilience as a business lesson
Bernadette tells her story of being a very successful businesswoman who had a subtle and sudden change seven years ago that she wasn’t conscious of at the time
Aligning closer with the business that is right with you will make you more successful
She defines success as using every opportunity to learn to lead a more balanced life
She asks, will challenges and opportunities throw you into chaos or teach you to balance?
There is something very powerful about the energy of Willingness - Power Vs. Force
Overwhelm is an indicator to course correct, even just as simple and short as a deep breath or two minutes of time out
If an activity can’t be eliminated, you need to delegate it or hand it off to someone else
An activity inventory helps you track which activities are revenue-producing and not revenue-producing but take up a lot of your time.
If you constantly wait for money to show up to make decisions, you won’t move forward at all. Leaps of faith are required.
You need to make the decision from the destination not the starting point
Be willing to work with the feedback from the market when it doesn’t work out as expected. Ask what needs to be adjusted and be willing to course-correct.
Women need time and space to be women, to work with her flows and know her own energy, especially those who don’t have a regular office job
In Bernadette’s Voice
“Moment of conflict - I feel like I should be doing one thing but I need to be doing another. I trust that there’s a plan. Things will work out in a way you couldn’t imagine.”
“Start where you are and start small to develop that trust that you’re aligning with the right business, like it’s a skill. Why not start by thinking small? Today is all I got, this hour is all I got.”
“Willingness to be shown [a way], especially when you can’t see the details, opens up tremendous possibilities.”
“If I’m feeling exhilarated or content and looking forward to relaxation time with family, I know I’m on track. If I’m feeling stress or ratty, it’s feedback and I need to look more closely. I track the time I spend doing things I have natural ability for, versus things I definitely don’t feel energized by.”
“Keep track of what you’re spending your time on. Did they energize you or did they drain you?”
“The things we’re excited about sharing as business owners have corresponding need in the world. There’s a group of people who are looking for that.”
Connect with Bernadette
Business Smarts with Heart Facebook Group
Write Your Book with Dallas Woodburn
/Dallas Woodburn is an acclaimed writing coach and “book doula” who founded the 90-Day Book Breakthrough Program to help entrepreneurs give birth to the books that are burning inside them. She is the author of three books, both traditionally published and indie-published, and is the editor of two national anthologies. She also has experience as a freelance writer for dozens of magazines, newspapers, websites, and 30+ books in the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul book series. Dallas received her BA degree in Creative Writing and Entrepreneurship from the University of Southern California and her Master’s degree in Fiction Writing from Purdue University, and was a Steinbeck Fellow at San Jose State University. She has led groups and seminars at a number of national conferences, festivals, and book fairs, and is a frequent guest speaker at club meetings, on podcasts, and on TV shows. Her new novel The Best Week That Never Happened will be published by Month9Books in 2020.
Here are some of the big topics we talked about:
If you’re starting to write a book, it’s a weighty question of where to begin
Don’t try to think of the project as a whole or get ahead of yourself, just think about one story or message you want to share and write a page
Dallas’s dad being a writer made her very aware of the link between writing and book being made
While communicating in words was at first exciting, it’s now buried deep inside of us
The idea of remembering the magic of expressing anything through words and changing lives of people we’ve never met is an idea that can center you when you begin a new project or sit down to write
You can tap into that child-like place with practices like a photo reminder, going with the flow, letting go of expectations, making your favorite tea, lighting a candle, creating different playlists for each project you’re working on, etc
Rituals like these can help train your brain to get into special writing time, especially if you turn off your phone, shut down your email if writing on the computer and clear away any other distractions
Treat writing as a special time that you have with yourself; it’s nourishing!
As you’re writing, think about your ideal reader or even a particular person to write to and create a manifesto for yourself
How will what you’re writing help the audience you’re writing for?
Use the connection that your words will have with your reader as motivation to keep writing. Remember to ask yourself, “what do I really want to say to my ideal reader?”
Not feeling motivated is a normal part of the process, especially when your initial enthusiasm has worn off a little but you are far from the end goal
The “muddy middle” as Dallas calls it, is a common place for people to quit writing
By adding the phrase, “and that’s okay” to any inner voice, it takes the power away from the criticism
When asked what is the hardest thing about being a writer, Dallas replied that her response has shifted from external struggles such as getting published to the internal battles with self doubt, fear, and critical voices
These practices are relevant and useful even if you’re not writing a book - it’s a reminder to surround yourself people who listen and support you
As a coach she is a cheerleader and book doula - a container of support
Her inner voice is calling her to trust and listen to what her inner voice has to say
In Dallas’s Voice
“Someone else who you’ve never met and will never meet can read the words that you write and it can change their perspective or their life.”
“Every time I start a new project I feel afraid that maybe I won’t be able to find or its scary to me because it’s something new. Every book has felt different to me because it’s a different journey, it’s pushed me to grow”
“Writing your book is going to change you. You can’t hire that out. Self exploration and know yourself in the way if you write your book out.”
“It’s amazing how much wisdom we have inside ourselves that we don’t even know.”
Connect with Dallas
Big Voice with Kelly Resendez
/Kelly Resendez is a mom, business executive, best selling author and influencer. She loves helping others with strategies to overcome self-sabotage and find more joy. Author of the new and already popular book Big Voices, is also founder of the movement the book is named for, Big Voices a women-empowered network.
Here are some of the big topics we talked about:
True suffering is experienced by those victimized by the many evils in the world
Self suffering is when daily challenges, both physical and mental, are created by one’s thoughts and emotions
Worry, fear, and loss of hope consume the self-suffering person, who is at a loss for how to process and feels a lack of control
At any moment, a new story can transform anyone’s life because thoughts are so powerful!
Under the surface each person carries a deeper potential
By tapping into joy and maintaining it consciously, despite the simultaneous experience of suffering, one can realize a transformative paradigm shift
Kelly Resendez shares her story of losses, challenges, and conflicts within her family that spurred her to seek external gratification but also deep searching
Thought Management Strategy: sorting and qualifying authentic empowering thought from disempowering thought
Thank and let go of the “little” thoughts that come at you like doubt and self pity
Create actionable steps out of the thoughts that come from your big voice
Bring patterned and repetitive thoughts into the light by documenting and also help others find light by challenging their little thoughts
Kelly is very particular about who she keeps closest to her while also believing in being less judgmental and more accepting
She relies on the strength of her belief system to keep her positive in strong situations
Have the conviction that nobody will steal your joy! Especially in the conversation surrounding both parents and parenting!
Kelly and Kelly dive deep into an exchange on parenting
Why you should create space on a daily basis to make yourself a priority and make self love a practice
In Kelly’s Voice
“We can change the way that we experience the life that we’re given. We can’t remove the suffering but we can certainly shift how we’re experiencing it and maintain joy simultaneously.”
“I was able to move through and find meaning in the struggles. I stay in a place where nobody steals my joy. I’m just unshakeable.”
“The first step is trusting that the universe is going to orchestrate to help move you forward.”
“Your little voice is just all those little nonsense thoughts: ‘I hate my body,’ ‘I’m never gonna get out of this,’ ‘I’m just not pretty enough,’ ‘I’m not smart enough,’ ‘I’m never gonna get ahead in my life or have financial freedom.’ When you’re able to sort and qualify your big voice from your little voice, you’re able to see that the little voice is just nonsense.”
“We desire connection. We also have the habit of staying isolated with our self suffering. We end up complaining instead of creating a new pattern. We’ve got to help one another!”
“When you really think about devotion, it is an absolute commitment to your emotional and physical well-being so that you can be in a place of impact and service to the rest of world.”
Connect with Kelly
A Love Note For You
/When was the last time someone told you what a great job you were doing? This is for you, for when you need to hear it, for when you need to be reminded you are loved and worthy.
xoxo,
Kelly
How to Be Radiant with Emily Pereira
/Emily Pereira is an international retreat leader, certified yoga teacher, and life coach specializing in helping women attract soul affirming love into their lives. She lives in Costa Rica where she is building the Spirit Nature Retreat and Wellness Center. She's also the author of the forthcoming book, The Quest.
Here are some of the big topics we talked about:
A radiant woman has an energy that shines from her soul that magnetizes every person, experience and opportunity that steps into her life
Emily notes that a woman on the cover of a magazine but with a dullness to her is a strong contrast to a woman who’s not traditionally beautiful but glowing with radiance
If you see radiance in someone else it’s in you
Notice if you’ve agreed to information or thoughts that cover over your radiance
Adopt a supportive belief system that allows you to nurture our radiance
Lives that don’t feel as good as they look may have creativity blocked from flowing
Creativity is an energy part of being human; nothing in the natural world is perfect and you don’t have to be perfect either
Perfection programming - “slay it or don’t do it at all” - totally depletes radiance
When one finds her way out of this maze, it becomes her dharma to help others out
Take radical personal responsibility for your every single moment of your life
Find the gift, vibrate in gratitude, neutralize the situation, move on!
Creativity and inspiration are a gateway to the present moment
When you’re in gratitude for your life, you trust that things are working out
Emily notes a difference between qualities:
Let go of efforting, being serious, having a “problem mentality,” exhausting yourself, feeling like you punish yourself, living in competition - masculine qualities that harden us as women
Intend to have more softening feminine energies: amusement, ease, collaboration, permission, rejuvenation, light-heartedness, playfulness
Being vulnerable about the journey despite being in front of such a large audience is how Emily is staying on a path of growth
She loves the community of sisterhood, women by her side that are real - they share ups and downs of life together
In Emily’s Voice:
“Gifts are usually a shift in perspective, a recognition, a moment of clarity that leads to greater compassion for yourself, then that translates to greater compassion for others”
“It will never be enough until we feel like we’re enough.”
“Saving yourself is far sweeter than anybody else - being sovereign is a feeling like no other.”
“In moments of inspiration, we feel connected to who we are, why we’re here. Turn regrets of the past into gratitude - they were steps in getting you where you are now. They prevent future tripping because you’re connected to the present moment, which creates future.”
“You know you’re radiant when love is pouring out of you, you just want to be super friendly, compelled to compliment, flirt for no reason.”
“We should be vibrating 5x higher than men, we drop our vibration in order to get that approval from the people in charge.”
Connect with Emily:
Website link for In Her Voice listeners
How Emotions Can Heal with Amy Scher
/Amy B. Scher is the best selling author of How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can and This Is How I Save My Life. Her forthcoming book, How To Heal Yourself From Anxiety will be out in 2019. As an expert in mind-body-spirit healing, she is often lovingly referred to as an “accidental guru.” She uses energy therapy techniques to help those experiencing emotional and physical challenges to move on and heal permanently and completely. Amy lives in She lives in NYC with her beautiful wife and two bad cats. She teaches at retreats and conferences nationwide. Most importantly, she lives by her self-created motto: When life kicks your ass, kick-back.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:
Amy shares her story of chronic Lyme disease undiagnosed for many years
Her symptoms were so severe she went for experimental stem cell transplant in India
She followed her intuition (against her doctor’s wishes) to try this treatment for 9 weeks
Rebuilt immune, nervous systems and organs; she recovered with huge improvement
Amy’s physical recovery unravelled after a year at which point she was forced to look inward and come to many realizations about her inner life
She began to admit to herself that her positive and upbeat ways were forced
The full healing came in from releasing all of her emotional baggage
This emotional and spiritual piece was much harder than the physical recovery
Rarely do we look at the whole picture of our emotional selves; the medical diagnosis process reduces down to individual small factors
We have so many ways to participate in healing our illness, depression, and anxiety
Emotion Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping techniques along the body’s acupuncture meridians is an active release of emotions that were stuck or held
She found EFT works for her because it’s easy and felt good to her. In turn, part of Amy’s teaching is to help others do what is easy for them
Acknowledging emotions and letting go of them in one fell swoop is a way to clear
Amy’s book How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can has a chapter on EFT
Listening to her inner voice, intuition and trusting it has been a throughline in Amy’s life
The surprising the way she knew she needed to go to India to heal her Lyme ultimately lead to meeting the love of her life there
She has had a lot of confirmation that her body knows what she needs
In Amy’s Voice:
“I had to look at what other factors could be affecting my physical body. That’s what made me turn inward to look at the inner landscape of my life.”
“It wasn’t until I got home that I was able to integrate all of the seeds from India such as ‘you can heal yourself’ and ‘mind over matter.’”
“If I want to get better, what I’ve been doing isn’t working. Even if it’s not my fault, it has to be my responsibility to take part in the solution.”
“Our body, immune system, and nervous systems can handle a lot but it can’t hold your whole past under the surface and deal illness.”
“We have to meet our medicine halfway to do our part to bring up our immune system because our emotions can make us sick.”
“We so often look last at our emotional selves, how much we’re having fun, and connections with family and friends. Those things all contribute to our inner environment.”
“If I deal with acknowledging and clearing an emotion just temporarily right now, then I’m done and I can move on.”
“Once we realize that emotions are only really difficult when we have to hold them for a long time, we become used to feeling angry or sad, being fine with it, and letting it pass. You realize if you allow it, it will just move.”
Connect with Amy:
Learn EFT with Amy! (video)
Website
Amy’s Freebies & more
Instagram
Facebook
Twitter
The Power of Your Story with Johanna Walker
/Johanna Walker is the fear-blasting, storytelling maven for coaches, consultants, leaders, and change-makers. She’s the founder of Women Who Speak, a transformational speaker coaching program for female leaders, and co-founder of Boulder, Colorado’s popular story slam series, Truth Be Told. She has toured her own theater pieces throughout the US and Canada. She holds an M.Ed. from Kent State University, an MFA from Naropa University, and a WholeSpeak Public Speaking Coach certification.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:
Kelly introduces Johanna and welcomes her to the show
Johanna is helping women share their stories and step into their power by combining the inner voice with the spoken voice
Johanna’s journey unfolded over many years as she discovered the power of her story
She began as a very quiet girl and young adult who rarely spoke but had her voice in written form as a poet. She wrote primarily about her experience in a world of quiet and silence.
She emerged as a speaker when unexpectedly and despite her fears, she read one of her own poems at an event
It connected her with others with the same story; their resonance and feedback made Johanna begin to realize that it mattered to share her story through her poems
The voice that tells you “I don’t matter” doesn’t go away overnight, but you can take the power from that voice by telling your stories
Discerning when, what, and how to tell by following the impulse and honoring the narrative of truth over the narrative of fear
Johanna also accessed the wisdom of her body and the stories stored there through dance improvisation, further developing her voice and confidence in story telling
She shares some insight on the power of stories for those who are new to storytelling
She emphasized that a powerful story doesn’t have to be a trauma
If you tell a benign story from your heart it’s going to make a difference for somebody
The act of storytelling is transformative for both sides of the equation - the teller and the audience. Remember the intention for the audience to be touched by hearing it
Hold the question, “why is it going to be important that it’s going to be heard?” in your awareness when developing a story
Johanna’s advice for everyone expanding their comfort zone in storytelling: take risks, play, expand the range of expression; let vulnerability and more of who you are come forward; be willing to be uncomfortable, stay present
Take comfort in fact that the voice lives in the whole body - think embodied speaking
Watch for residual shame and humility so it can peel away back to who you really are
Periods of silence and stillness are a way to connect to body and breath
In Johanna’s Voice:
“At that point, a lot of my writing was about my experience of silence and my world of quietness…”
“All those experiences get stored in my body, so all those stories are there.”
“Dig a little deeper and trust what arises.”
“In telling the story, it is transformational for the teller. We can be changed.”
“Part of the transformation is in you hearing the story. I want you to hear it.”
“By expanding the range of expression through improv theater, I have more access to my expressive capability when I come back to talking.”
“Take the story of safety away, really be present with the feeling.”
“Discern between the feeling of ‘I’m not safe’ and the reality of being safe.”
Connect with Johanna:
Michelle Gomez on Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
/Michelle Gomez is an accomplished business executive, with nearly 2 decades worth of experience in the male-dominated transportation and logistics industry. She has been a strong advocate for women in the workforce; mentoring dozens of women to personal and professional success. A self-proclaimed reformed Corporate Burnout, Michelle managed to find a slower pace of career that allowed her time and space to address the Impostor Syndrome in her own life. Michelle then turned her attention to helping other high achievers recognize and overcome their own Imposter Syndrome struggles, writing a book about her own journey. Now she’s bringing her story and experience to others, helping high achievers overcome Imposter Syndrome for their own career success.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:
The Imposter Syndrome is a behavioral phenomenon of highly competent individuals who dismiss their accomplishments, attribute success to outside forces, and fear being revealed as a fraud or imposter.
Sufferers of the Imposter Syndrome have difficulty internalizing success.
Michelle is a former corporate high achiever and author of “Own Your Brilliance”
Exhausted by giving all of herself to those around her and sensing the overwhelm of stress from her corporate job, she manifested an opportunity of working from home.
She developed inner fortitude by morning devotional time, reading, and journaling.
The five competency tendencies:
Perfectionist - extremely high expectations, harsh inner criticism and shame
Natural genius - assuming you have no natural inclination if a task isn’t easy
Expert - needing to become more and more of an expert through credentials, certifications, and mastery, but always striving never thriving
Rugged individualist, the soloist - believes true competence is achieving task on their own; asking for help solidifies that they’re a phony, then shame is felt
Super human - grad students are heavy sufferers; all duties should be fulfilled masterfully; to be perfect in every role; to juggle it all and make it look easy;
She still practices, reviews, and reminds herself of what triggers imposter thoughts
Michelle has an ability to see through difficult behaviors of others as how they’re dealing with hurt and she gives people a space to share their brokenness. Her empathy and love helps them change their lives.
Show up, play big, play brightly. No more holding back on true gifts! That goes for everybody. It’s about living through to our inspired potential.
In Michelle’s Voice:
“It’s a behavioral phenomenon experienced by highly competent individuals, where they have a difficulty internalizing their success.”
“It’s a matter of changing your agreements with yourself and the outside world to reduce the amount of suffering from things like overthinking, making assumptions, and being easily offended.”
“I’m going to continue to create a space for people to dream bigger than they have been up to this point and eliminating fear as part of their experience.”
“I had tapped into the reality of living as a corporate burnout. My mind was at work, my heart was at work. I had given so much of my identity to my career.”
“The competency types of the imposter syndrome all lead to a fearful shame.”
Connect with Michelle:
Cultivating a Life that Reflects Your Essence with Bianca Mastrototaro
/Bianca Mastrototaro is a Home, Body, Soul Shaman and the one woman show behind her business, Enchanted Living Spaces. Bianca originally started her business working with the energy within the home through Elemental Space Clearing and Feng Shui but then expanded to working with the body and soul after observing that your home, body, and soul must be aligned in order for true manifestation of the life you desire to occur. All three elements are key to enhancing your self worth, releasing limiting beliefs and old traumas, and developing a brand new energy that aligns with the life you truly want and she is here to help you accomplish that.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:
Kelly welcomes and introduces Bianca
Bianca helps create an exterior that reflects your soul, the interior, through her work
After college in an unrelated field, she stumbled on inspiration to change paths
The intuitive full-body “yes” that intuitively led her to be doing this kind of work
How home, inner environment, and soul can align with your spiritual and life goals
Unconditional love and financial freedom are examples of goals we all really want
Clutter (books, decorations, clothes that don’t fit) is the number one home block
Let go of items that radiate energy that counters your highest goals and dreams
We should love ourselves without comparison to the past
Bianca says to constantly update your environment to keep it empowering you
Creating space to bring another soul into your life
Beware of holding onto material things out of sentimentality for an earlier phase
You must give yourself the opportunity to find the love and joy in the moment
Once you’ve removed clutter, clear out the energy footprints of deep-rooted emotions
The energy of sound can indicate where energy is stagnating and what’s in flow
She teaches paying attention to how each room makes you feel with your eyes closed
Add the feeling of where you like to be most in nature into your home
Kelly describes how we all can translate intuition into an ability to influence your home’s energy
Bianca encourages us to crack ourselves open to this experience of shifting the home energy into very positive, life-supporting living spaces
Inner voice: finding ways to connect more deeply with our source of wisdom - your body is going to know, as we walk through our home every day
Rearranging furniture according to feng shui and chi is like acupuncture for your home
Elevate your environment by bringing in colors from nature that make your soul sing
Check out Bianca’s free course, Home Body Soul Ascension, on how to get you started, intro to energy, decluttering your wardrobe, plants to ionize your home.
Listen to your body and go with your heart
In Bianca’s Voice:
“Not just your home needs to be in alignment, but your inner world needs to be in alignment too.”
“There are a lot of hidden things in your home that relate back to self worth.”
“This is a sacred space. If you are done with that aspect of your life, you have to get that stuff out of your house. [...] I think a lot of the times we hold onto things because it was a better time, according to us.”
“...you really have to experience temporarily that grief, sadness, anger from the past to open yourself up to experience the good. If we’re denying the negative emotions we’re denying the positive emotions.”
“I do believe that once your home environment changes, your body tries to meet that energy. So, if your home is vibrating at a higher energy, your soul and body will try to meet that.”
“We have this ability and sometimes it can be scary, and you’re right it can be intimidating but if you start to crack yourself open to this and you actually experience and can feel the difference after this”
“Finding a way to make your home easy. And that’s why clutter is so important, because if you’re looking for something and you can’t find it, how does that make you feel?”
“Your body will tell you, if you can just quiet your mind enough to ask the questions, you know your body will speak the truth and you can practice this. It’s almost like your home is like a puzzle. Finding the proper placement for you. With feng shui, allowing yourself. Become your own feng shui practice just by listening to what your body says.”
Connect with Bianca:
Get Bianca’s free course, Home Body Soul Ascension
Treat yourself AND support In Her Voice when you buy this week's featured product, The Overnight Resurfacing Peel. Anything you purchase through this link will directly support the podcast!
Stop Betraying Yourself
/Stop. Stop it right now. Stop betraying yourself...with your choices, with your food, with your words, with your actions (or non-actions).
Start living a life of empowered choices that nurture, serve and cultivate your most authentic self.
Visionary Woman Spotlight - Adria DeCorte The Messenger to the Messengers
/Adria DeCorte, M.S., is a Message Clarity Coach, helping women coaches uncover the marketing message that lights them up and communicates the value in their work so they can serve more people, scale their business, and start a movement. A TEDx speaker and former architect turned plant ecologist, she's shared her own voice on over 30 podcasts, radio, and video shows. She is the creator of the group program Get Clear, Get Clients, host of the Unforgettable Podcast, and her expert advice has been featured on the Huffington Post and the Fox Morning News Las Vegas. On weekends, she can be found hiking around her hometown Las Vegas with her fur-child Lexi the doberman.
Here are a few of the big topics we talked about:
Kelly introduces Adria DeCorte
Adria and Kelly discuss what it means to be a visionary woman.
Adria’s path to her current message was not a straight one, and it is ever-evolving.
We’re all put here on this earth to feel MORE than good enough - the ladies discuss how they each do this for themselves.
Negative feelings and why it’s okay to have those negative feelings, instead of just zeroing on positive feelings.
If something doesn’t feel right, instead of forcing the positive thoughts, consider why it doesn’t feel right.
Adria’s calls herself a messenger and she shares that her message often evolves throughout her life.
Perfectionism and how it holds back your message from the world.
Your mission is greater than this discomfort.
Adria shares the path her mission has taken.
The ladies discuss whether everyone is a messenger.
If you want to uncover what your message is, Adria is providing this freebie to walk you through it.
Adria shares how she has connected with her message in the past.
Kelly shares how she’s been connecting with her Inner Voice and message.
Adria shares what her Inner Voice is asking of her.
In Adria’s Voice:
“I was being called to use my voice and to support other women in a much more direct way, in a way where I could make things happen.”
“I didn't know what my message was. I just knew I had something to say.”
“I'm a huge believer of is that clarity in business and in life, it's a continual evolution.”
“When I notice myself starting to get drained, I start blocking opportunities, start blocking people from working with me because I'm like, oh, I don't really want to do that, then I start to notice my inner voice is saying something to me and that it’s letting me know that there is an evolution about to happen.”
“You are continually evolving, and that the way to feel aligned in your life is to find what is in alignment for you at this moment, and to let the future take care of itself.”
“My natural instinct is to work on everything in my head, in private, until it's perfect, and then put it out into the world. It does take a lot of courage to step out and say, okay, this is what it is, and this is what it is for now, and I might change my mind.”
“My mission is greater than the discomfort.”
“We get into this space where we don't feel good enough in our business, because it seems like what's supposed to work isn't working. It's not that you're not talented, it's just that you don't know how to communicate in a way that connects with your people.”
“My inner voice has been asking me, kind of loudly actually, to really be able to focus my energy on directly supporting the people who are messengers. On being able to have that ripple effect more deeply than me just using my message by helping others birth their messages.”
Connect with Adria:
Did you love what you heard?? Please share with a friend! Take a screenshot and post to your social media and don't forget to tag me @kellyjcovert on Instagram and FB!! And be sure to check out my absolute favorite (and first) Beautycounter product, the Cleansing Balm!